The two things that stop you from having what you want.

If you understand this post, you will see how this is exactly how you got everything in your life. If you understand this post, you will have the keys to everything you want in your future.

Spend time really thinking about this, Spend time really feeling this. Challenge yourself to feel what is really going on in you, because this is it. This is the only thing you will ever do to achieve everything you ever want. Be that enlightenment or billions of dollars!!

The two things that stop you from having what you want.

  1. Lack of clarity,
  2. Emotions.

The one thing that empowers us is our story that enables us to create a flow towards what you want.

If you want to be a millionaire the only thing that is stopping you is lack of clarity. If you knew how to do it you’d be a millionaire already.

Now I am just using millionaire as an example, you could want to be a whale scientist if you want.

Once we decide on anything, (to be a millionaire) a question pops up instantly. Who or what or why or where or when or how. In this case how will I make a million?

These are clarification questions. If you keep asking them you will eventually get what you want.

The clearer we get on what we want the more we believe it can happen. If you

want to be a millionaire and don’t know how that it is going to happen, you feel doubt. But if you go to a millionaire and ask them how they made their millions then it becomes more believable. As you can see the clearer you get the more you believe.

Belief does not come first, Clarity does😊

The only thing that holds you back from achieving what you want is your

emotions. If you have a conflict in you from when you are a child like your parents always saying, “there is never enough money”” money does not grow on trees” and so on this plays in the background. So, if you say I want to be a millionaire and that is exciting this underlying story will pull at your good feelings and undermine your energy.

So, by stepping forward we then find out what is holding us back. The exact thing that is holding us back comes up. So, by stepping forward we get an opportunity to listen to ourselves and create a greater flow of energy. By listening to ourselves we can see what is true and not.

If you are feeling dis-empowered you are always telling a lie. You have overcome everything in your life to this point? How does that feeling feel? Do you feel Empowered or dis-empowered? If you are not feeling good from saying I’ve overcome everything in my life, then you are lying to yourself because you have, so that emotion that is making you feel bad and is obviously not telling the truth.

Now that we are starting to pay more attention to how we feel we can start feeling what is going to move us forward in the most effective way. We do that by the stories we tell ourselves. When we say I can you are always telling the truth and when we say I can’t we are always lying. Someone somewhere has done more or less what you want to do. No one is 100% original. So, if someone has done it you can too. So, by saying I can your energy flows when we say I can’t we feel dis-empowered.

But we must feel what is going on in us at the same time as what we are thinking. Our emotion drive us forward. If you have an issue with self-belief and you feel you can’t saying you can just doesn’t feel right. We must feel our emotion at this point we have to care about them because they are us. they are always looking out for us and caring about us. so, if we try to bulldoze them we are bulldozing ourselves. Once we start listening to our emotions we are loving ourselves. We are also being extremely smart because our emotions give us much more feedback about situations than we can consciously perceived. We have all had the experience of something just not feeling right and us ignoring it. 😊

So, when we create the story in partnership with our feelings we then create flow. This can be a challenge sometimes and we may need to do some emotional digging but this is what is going to give us the most fun and freedom in our life.

When we become more clear externally we become more clear internally and more In-tune with ourselves then we are creating the stories that will empower us to live epic lives.

Enthusiasm Is The Key

EEnthusiasm is the mother of effortnthusiasm is the key to life, not happiness, joy or even love. I am being very precise with my words. Love is what is, happiness is the feeling, and so Is joy. But enthusiasm is the key to life, life is movement, growth and contribution. Enthusiasm is Love in motion, or action. Enthusiasm, is the flow of life, the vibration you emit, and as you know is infectious?

Think about how enthusiastic you where as a child for Christmas. The surprises that where coming to you. How enthusiastic are you about life now? Surprises happen all the time, but we have dulled down our lives so much, that the only surprises we get are bills, Mu ha ha.

Lets drop that shit. Lets start expecting good things to happen.The-real-secret-of-success__quotes-by-Walter-Chrysler-27

Think about if you were getting a new car, how excited you are looking at all the different models. You create that.

Think about when you meet someone you fancy, thinking about what may come of the interaction. You create that feeling.

Can you feel in these two examples of how your thought energy is looking forward to what may happen?

How often do you use that thought energy, to look forward to what bad may happen?

In both cases you will never know what will happen, it will always bthe-key-to-success-is-not-through-achievement-but-through-enthusiasm-quote-1e a surprise, and you’re the one who creates the expectations. !!!!

How often do you kill your enthusiasm, with a misuse of your imagination?

We either dis-empower ourselves, or empower ourselves, with our imagination / thoughts.

We use questions to create our future. What can go wrong with this, or what could we do that would be awesome, which question would bring you more happiness, / enthusiasm?

What would happen if you started asking how much fun, could I have, in work today? Who could I have fun with? What could I do that would be interesting. instead of the usual drone of misery?

enthusiasm is the key to successsNow for the deep psychology stuff. What do you really want in life. We actually want to feel terrific, awesome, and full of enthusiasm, for every day. How often do you ask yourself this question? Am I happy doing what I’m doing? If not ask a more effective question? What would fill me full of enthusiasm every day? And we can ask an even more effective question, what ways can I do what fills me full of enthusiasm, and make loads of money.

This is not materialistic. What do they say about enthusiasm? “it’s infectious” so it is your responsibility to be full of enthusiasm, because you will literally be making the world, around you, a happier place? And having money just allows you to amplify that.

Its simple you want an Epic Life and what ever that is is up to you but you create it by the use of your imagination and to direct that you ask yourself effective questions.  winston churchill

So what fills you full of enthusiasm? and if you don’t know, then ask a more effective question.

Have an awesome day.

 

Re-evaluating my goals.

My plan to speak at pendulum summit got derailed, for the past few months.

I set an audacious goal, and didn’t really know what I was getting myself in for.

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Just like all goals, plan A didn’t work also plan b, c,d, and e. But now finally after trailing and fail-learning and a bit of de-motivation, I am getting the picture back of what I wanted 9 months ago.

I can see myself speaking on stage and the energy in the place being off the charts. I know the type of energy I want, because I’ve was a DJ, and I know when a place is electric. 3 or 4 thousand people, with a real drive, to be the best that they can be. Just even saying this pumps me up.

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I got derailed like every one, my goal was going to take a lot more effort than I thought. But that is the mark of a real goal. Something that will grow you. I had all the pieces but had no idea how long and how to put them together.

My naive assumption at the start of the year was, I’d put out a bunch of videos and get traction, and that was it. Haha. So funny now. Totally delusional. But again that is the mark of a true goal.

So, I’ve melted my own head over, and over, just like every entrepreneur, and it didn’t seem as much fun, as it originally did. It started feeling like it was going to be a lot of hard work.

Hard work

My plan originally was to do a bit of online marketing, and get a job with Pendulum Summit doing marketing, network with all the top people, and develop an opportunity that way.

What has come about, is I’ve had to start a media company, to build my own brand, which still doesn’t exist. So I’ve had to do a lot of study, and growing, than originally planned.

I started a meet up group,(The Epic Life Group) because I needed experience as an actual speaker. Yea that’s how delusional, this goal was. I fucking love it. Totally nuts.

Because I got disillusioned by the scale of things, my energy started to go, and I realized, I had a lot less time, than I originally thought. I was aiming to have all my stuff together at the end of the year, and I’d get a place to speak. But thanks to DJ and Journalist, Mark Kavanagh, I realized I had a lot less time. I actually had to get my shit together months in advance, because that is when they would finalize the lineup. Yea as I said I was delusional. Haha

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So through setting up the Meet-up group, that became much more interesting, and of much more value, than speaking at pendulum summit. I was getting in a small way, what I was aiming for in speaking at Pendulum.

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I said to myself, sure if I just build this group to thousands of people, I wont need pendulum.

So I carried on with that vision for a few months and had to think about growing the group, so I started reading lots of books, and marketing stuff, primarily @garyvee and today I realized, that I was struggling with my marketing message.

I realized that I had no direction, for what I was doing, I lost my north star. My vision had evaporated.

I was reading this stuff to grow the group, but to what end. It was vague and mushy.

Lost vision

Over the past few months, I had felt this vagueness, but I had no idea what it was. I went from being proactive, to just reading stuff that seemed like being productive, but it wasn’t leading anywhere.

I am reminded again, and again, that we have to have a north star, a destination, a goal because, that puts what we are doing, now, in context, and gives what we are doing, now, purpose.

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I was proactively lost.

I can even see it in the epic life group, I had lost that drive to grow, by being vague, and the group, I feel,could feel that too. Every bit of content I was putting out was great, but it lacked that bit of drive, and conviction, that direction. What we are all doing this for. We want epic lives, that is why, we are here, and that energy, was faltering.

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I understand on a whole new level, the purpose of goals, so much more now. Goals are not to be attained, but they are there as tools to help you grow.

The goal itself is irrelevant, the journey is the most important thing. It is who you become as a result of your journey, that is most important. But! the goal gives you direction.

This goal has gone from being something fun, to something much more serious, it is now become a mark of my growth, as a man, a person, as a person who can make a difference, to his own life, and as a result the people around him.

The goal has gone from being a selfish one, to one that I hope will empower others.

Get over myself

I know now, that I am mad late, on speaking at pendulum, but miracles happen every day.

I am re-energized, and clear again on what I want to do, and why. We all go through these processes. If you are to take one thing away from this, is just keep going, keep moving forward, and things will become clear eventually.

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If  I had have stopped, I would not have a second chance now, and I gave myself that second chance.

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My energy and clarity is back.

I see myself in the Dublin Exhibition Center speaking to 3 thousand people, and bringing them on a journey that empowers the fuck out of them. I see the place going nuts, for themselves, because they will see how far, they have come, through my story.

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If I can be so delusional, and keep going, so can anyone. I can tell you now, I am 100% a better person for all the effort I have put in. Win, loose, or draw I have grown, and that is the real purpose of goals.

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I can not go back to who I was, and one way or another, I am going to have better things because of this.

I look forward to meeting you on our Epic Journey’s

 

Connecting To Your Heart.

Over the past 6 months while I’ve been on this trip to speaking at Pendulum Summit I’ve been hit with a multitude of issues and whilst all of them have been a pain, they are good. They have focused me.

heart-462873The biggest thing I’ve learned (again) is that you have to do what you love. What I had to learn was how to get into my heart, actually connect with myself. Due to partying and the usual growing up traumas I cut myself off from my emotions. I was happy in my numb-ness, but this caused a huge problem I couldn’t connect with what I wanted. From the outside I was enthusiastic and trying new things, but each thing had no meaning, they were just interesting. When I decided to become a DJ, when I was 20 ish at a Fatboy slim concert, that was a huge emotional confirmation I WANT THIS nothing before, or since has had that effect on me. Everything was just so so. But DJing was a different story, I could be free.

Now after doing some serious soul searching and energetic clearing, I’ve been able to connect more and more with my heart, the mad thing is that connecting with your heart is so much harder, and easier than you could imagine.

heartbeat-163709If I look back at my life, well the last 16 years at least I kinda have been connected, but the context was all wrong. The only things that have interested me is mad things, like jumping out of planes, DJing to mad crowds, and just trying new things in general. I did not want a specific thing, “my heart’s desire”.

I always thought that my heart desire would be something like ending poverty. or feeding the homeless. But in reality what makes me excited, is strange, different, quirky, and mad things. new, new, different. I always thought that, that was just me, who I was, but that wasn’t what my heart’s desire was.

eyes-421781My heart’s desire is simply just “I like mad things” different, new, change.

I’ve come to realize that because my heart’s desire was so close, I could not see it. It is literally how I operated. It was literally what made me excited, enthusiastic, and curious. But what did I want to do with that. What could I do with that?

People are passionate about making money, they are passionate about blogging, making videos, entrepreneurship / business or some other thing. I was interested in these things, but my heart just wasn’t into it, so I just kept running out of steam, after the initial curiosity wore off.

So what does all this mean now? Well its changed things around for me. I don’t want things, I want experiences, that fill me full of enthusiasm, excitement, and feed my curiosity.fitness-540263

Understanding the feelings I wanted, helped me connect with what I wanted to do, to get them.

Our hearts desire is a feeling not a thing. This was a revelation to me. I wanted fun, as much fun as possible.

This enabled me to think about this whole thing another way. It enabled me to ask a better question!

landscape-640617I asked what will be the best way for me to get the most experiences, while having the most fun, and earning plenty of money. I came back around to blogging, but this time its blogging with a purpose, I want to have an epic life. I want to do it all. And I suspect you do too. But an awesome life for me, and for you are two different things. You may see an awesome life as having your own house and I see traveling as a much higher priority. But either way the process we go through will be the same.

I’ve come full circle on my goal for this year. I’m six months in, and I haven’t blogged in a month, because I got derailed. I got derailed because of one thing. I wasn’t connected to my heart, I did not have that, I ran out of steam, I could not see why I was doing this anymore. Because I wasn’t’ fully clear on what I wanted in the first place.

I want to do mad things and show the world that everything is possible. To do that, I want to speak at the premier speaking event in the whole country. Why because its mad and I feel it will have a positive impact on the people around me. Why because I’m nobody, and if a nobody can do this, well then pretty much anything is possible, if your heart is in it.glow-1177383

So let’s do some mad stuff, lets have lots of fun, and see what is possible. I’m re-energised and I hope you are too.

Picking a role model. Richard Branson.

I’ve been reading Richard Branson’s books for years but yesterday as I was re-reading the virgin way I realized something has changed in me.

Richard Branson was always a person who I admired, but yesterday it went from admiration to seeing him as a role model.

What has switched, is that rather than seeing what he is doing as something cool it changed to something I wanted to emulate.

One is external and nice and the other is internal and motivating.

I’ve always asked people who they admire, this is a good way for me to see who they really are. Because we see in others only what we see in ourselves.

OprahPeople like Oprah because of her compassion, whereas I see her as a thought leader.

What I feel has happened, is that as I’ve cleared enough of my doubts and fears, that I am now able to see my purpose clearer. Through that, I’ve been able to connect with it much better. Through this connection, I was then able to see in another, (Richard)  what I wanted to see in my life.

Richard Branson.What I see, that I want to emulate, in Richard Branson, is his love for life, his ability to mix work, and pleasure, his ability to listen, take notes, and then to write. These are all attributes, I’ve been working on in myself, but Richard Branson has the whole package that I want. (The image kinda says it all)

He works hard, manages himself, his companies, his drive is to have fun, be creative, to be of benefit to man and the planet.

I see what has happened to me, all the other times I read Richards books, what he was doing, was something I’d like, rather than now, it’s something I want. My belief has changed. The belief in me is there to create the connection between me, and what he is doing.

So ask yourself this question? Who do I admire and why? Pick three and just jot down a few attributes that you admire in each.

Secondly, ask yourself which one of them (or someone else) would be a great role model for me. Who do I want to emulate?

You will always be original, because you are different, and like different things. but it’s just to connect with someone, who is a bit further down the path than you are.

I would love to read what you came up with.

 

My Chronic Fatigue Story

Chronic-FatigueOver the past 10 years I’ve struggled with chronic fatigue and Fibromyalgia I have
tried every treatment and therapy known to man, but no success. That’s I because I was looking in the wrong place for the solution to my issue.

This crept up on me gradually, bit by bit, I had to go back to bed, more and more each day. First I went to the doctor, and that was of no use. Then I went to Nutritionists, Dietitians, Naturopaths, Ayurveda, you name it i did it. I started doing course after course, and I kept getting worse and worse. At the height of it I could barely work, I was completely dependent, on my parents, to survive. I was only functional for a few hours a day.

bernarr-macfadden-fighting-disease-with-vitalityI have noticed a pattern with clients. We are very alike, different races, creeds and body types, but we have one key trait that shines through it all. We all have ambition, but unfortunately we are hindered by our energy levels. We get frustrated, stressed, and this just compounds the whole matter. We are driven, but that drive is actually what Is causing the problem.

As I have worked through my own stuff I’ve gone to 100’s of experts in lots of different fields searching for the solution. I was always looking externally to myself what chemical what imbalance what cure can I get for this.

fibromyalgia-1What I have found is that Chronic Fatigue is the result, but not the cause. It is the result of a whole chain of things. If your look at the result, not the cause you will never find a solution, because your looking completely in the wrong place.

Let me explain this in a slightly abstract way. Imagine one million years ago when we were walking around the jungle and a big animal jumps out to attack us, we go sprinting as fast as we can, this is the fight or flight response, or stress. Our bodies are really smart and because we need all our energy and physical resources to go to our muscles, our body shuts down non essential parts of our bodies, like our digestive system, when stressed. The person gets away and then relaxes and his body returns to normal.

hqdefaultThere are no dangers like that in our lives, but we still have the same system operating in the background. Our body doesn’t know the difference between an animal and work stress or the stress of having to pay bills. where do people get butterflies when they are about to get up on stage?

The problem is we are in a constant state of stress every day. Stress going to work, stress in work, stress coming home and stress on the news. We are in a constant state of stress so our bodies do not normalize anymore.

If our digestive system is constantly not fully engaged then we have food that sits in our digestive system, and causes irritation, then we develop food intolerance’s. Because it is not fully turned on, we don’t absorb the right nutrients. We are in a heightened state of alertness, so we are burning more and more vitamins, at the exact time we are not absorbing them! We are running our engines with little or no oil, to keep it in peak performance. On top or all that because we are tired we tend to want more calorie rich food like chocolate sugar and carbs, but these again are not going to replace what we need. On top of that again we drink caffeine which literally turns on our stress hormones (adrenaline) to boost our energy which adds more pressure on a completely exhausted system.

Do you see where this is going? So we are running on empty, not just empty but on a deficit. We are running ourselves into the ground.

But all of that stress started in our perceptions of what was going on! It all started in our decisions about what is going on in our world. Everything chases back to our thoughts, options, and decisions. They either stress us out or not!

This is why my blog is called Health Starts In The Mind because everything in our lives starts in our mind. Our thoughts create our reality.

FibromyalgiaThis had a cascade effect in my body as I got more stressed, I thought more how to fix it, as I through more how to fix it, I got more stressed. Bit by bit my body started to shut down and the external effects of my thought patterns started to show up. I was getting more tired and sleeping more, but not getting a proper rest, then because of inactivity, my legs and back started to ache. So I started to look at what was making me tired and sore. But that was the wrong place. I had to take control of my thoughts.

HealthSo what changed? I got pissed off really pissed off I realized that I’d have to figure this out myself.  Bit by bit I worked through my food intolerance’s and worked on upping my nutrition by eating better foods. But I would only get so far, I’d improve then my stress levels would catch up with my health, and I’d start going downhill again. Then I really started to change how I perceived the world. I started to really delve into how my mind worked. I started to learn how reality worked and started to change that for the better. HealthyThe more I worked on my thoughts the more I de-stressed the more I de-stressed the more energy I had. I learnt how to focus on what I wanted not what I didn’t want. I wanted to be full of energy and enthusiasm. Reading about sickness only made me stressed, and as a result sick.

I’ve noticed over and over that people who have chronic fatigue, fibromyalgia ME and depression, are all smart people with ambition. Any of the ones that heal all have a moment where they say no more! They call it rock bottom, where they decide what they are doing isn’t working, and it’s time to do something else. To start thinking differently!

Today I’m one of the healthiest people you will meet. I do get tired but that is because I do too much. but I regulate it way better now and i work with my body. I don’t stress about it i just do what is right for me and move on. Nice and easy.

Let me ask you what do you want? Do you want to be “not sick” or full of “Vitality and H



ealth”? I know what I want. So what are you going to change today?

Traits of an Entrepreneur.

EntrepreneurWe can get caught up in traits, behaviors and miss the true essence of a person. This is a great post on traits of an entrepreneur and also someone who is living their life to the fullest. Richard Branson

What I want to show is that we are all individuals, and we come at every single thing in life in a completely unique way. So no matter what, trying to emulate traits, is actually not being true to yourself, and demotivates you.

I’ve found through dealing with a number of entrepreneurs that effective personality traits develop as desire for the business grows. The desire to create an effective mind-set and routines grows in line with the business.

So the key personality trait that I would suggest developing is clarity of vision. see how your business can work get out there and start asking questions.

However, there is an aspect of this, that has to be kept in mind. It is to develop clarity of vision with a focus on improving ones self to achieve that goal.

Just like running a marathon you can not go straight to running 42 kilometers you have to grow but by doing your research each day and doing your bit each day you learn about yourself and as part of that you grow in every aspect. you get more organized to run in the morning you learn about eating better. all the traits develop as you move towards the goal.Entrepreneur calm

Let me ask you do you think Donald Trump and Richard Branson where born with all these skills, or did they learn them as they went along. Each of them learned personality traits from their parents. How many rags to riches stories have you heard, from people who had no parents. What happened is, that they had a goal and developed the traits along the way.

Goals come before traits so develop your goals and become the person who can achieve them.

What are your goals,  and who do you have to become to get there?

Routines to wins.

Consistent wins

Every successful entrepreneur has routines, these morning routines or rituals gear your brain up for the day a head and keep you focused on what is most important. some people meditate others do vision boards but every successful person has some sort of morning routine.

But routine is boring.

I’ve been struggling with morning routines for a long time now. I do them, but they are routine. They seem long and drawn out and boring. I have to do this sort of mentality, But they do get me in the right frame of mind and focused

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Daily wins.

This morning I flipped it around, I started calling them morning wins, because you are winning, you’re beating that voice in your head, that holds you back. What better way to start a day than by setting your standards and winning.

First win, is beating the snooze, get up before the first one goes off. Easy and motivating to get up. I say to myself over and over “I make it happen” Whatever it is Life, Fun, and Goals? If it’s to be, it’s up to me.

Second win, do my push-ups and sit-ups. This gets you pumped and awake (naturally).

Third win, Meditation clears my mind for the day ahead.

The most important thing is to celebrate them. Log them in your book and see the fruits of your wins, write down how you feel and how you are thinking.

So set daily wins,

Daily wins.

not routines.

What is an entrepreneur?

To me an entrepreneur represents someone who is innovative, ambitious and goes for what he / she wants. But I think it goes much deeper.

As many great speaker have said before, there are two drivers in life, Pain and Pleasure.

I believe that you can operate out of fear and operate out of love (pain and pleasure).

I believe that entrepreneurs operate out of love. Love to create and make the world a better place.

The fear mentality is “I haven’t got enough” and they consume, this is what most people call greed, but greed is actually fear of lack (not surviving) or not being good enough (ego)I-love-entrepreneurship

People who operate out of love are focused on building businesses that make the world a better place, either for the people or the planet.

We have all heard about the law of attraction and we have all heard this statement what goes around comes around, this is what Karma is. When you operate out of fear you may make money but you will be unhappy. Whereas you operate out of love you will make money and you will be happy.

So to me an entrepreneur is someone who operates out of love. They love their product they love what they do, they love helping people, and they love being of benefit to the world.

By loving what they do they become attractive, full of energy and life. By loving what they do they attract the right people to them and spread positivity to the world, and the world responds in kind, by helping their business grow.

Have you met people like this? I’m sure you have. Do you want some of that action?

Spend months, or years finding out what you love, then do it, and do it to the best of your ability. Make a decision now to love your life.

Best of luck.

 

Simple questions to change your life.

Anthony Robbins is often heard stating “if you want a better result, ask a better question”.

Our lives are driven by questions. Driven is the important word there. If we frieddon’t ask questions, how can we get what we want?

Often we hear ourselves asking “what do I want” but this is often met with a shrug and a “I dunno”.

So let us look at this another way because “what do I want?” is too vague and it’s also looking for one thing. I want lots of things, so the question instantly causes confusion.

How about asking what “would I like”? It has a much more playful feeling, and isn’t that the feeling you want out of life.

What would happen if you made a huge list of all the things you’d like in your life.

  1. A cool house / apartment
  2. A sweet car (Range Rover for me please)
  3. A cool relationship.
  4. Great friends.
  5. So on and so on.

Now that you have a huge list, the bigger the better, (because we are here to live life to the fullest). Let’s ask another question… what do i want first? Then another question… what do i want to do to make that happen? And the most important question what do I have to improve, in me,images to make that happen?

As you can see by improving the question you get a better result.

How are you going to have more fun today?

What do you want more? To stay in bed another hour or to have an epic life.

I look forward to reading your questions.

Thank you.