Enthusiasm Is The Key

EEnthusiasm is the mother of effortnthusiasm is the key to life, not happiness, joy or even love. I am being very precise with my words. Love is what is, happiness is the feeling, and so Is joy. But enthusiasm is the key to life, life is movement, growth and contribution. Enthusiasm is Love in motion, or action. Enthusiasm, is the flow of life, the vibration you emit, and as you know is infectious?

Think about how enthusiastic you where as a child for Christmas. The surprises that where coming to you. How enthusiastic are you about life now? Surprises happen all the time, but we have dulled down our lives so much, that the only surprises we get are bills, Mu ha ha.

Lets drop that shit. Lets start expecting good things to happen.The-real-secret-of-success__quotes-by-Walter-Chrysler-27

Think about if you were getting a new car, how excited you are looking at all the different models. You create that.

Think about when you meet someone you fancy, thinking about what may come of the interaction. You create that feeling.

Can you feel in these two examples of how your thought energy is looking forward to what may happen?

How often do you use that thought energy, to look forward to what bad may happen?

In both cases you will never know what will happen, it will always bthe-key-to-success-is-not-through-achievement-but-through-enthusiasm-quote-1e a surprise, and you’re the one who creates the expectations. !!!!

How often do you kill your enthusiasm, with a misuse of your imagination?

We either dis-empower ourselves, or empower ourselves, with our imagination / thoughts.

We use questions to create our future. What can go wrong with this, or what could we do that would be awesome, which question would bring you more happiness, / enthusiasm?

What would happen if you started asking how much fun, could I have, in work today? Who could I have fun with? What could I do that would be interesting. instead of the usual drone of misery?

enthusiasm is the key to successsNow for the deep psychology stuff. What do you really want in life. We actually want to feel terrific, awesome, and full of enthusiasm, for every day. How often do you ask yourself this question? Am I happy doing what I’m doing? If not ask a more effective question? What would fill me full of enthusiasm every day? And we can ask an even more effective question, what ways can I do what fills me full of enthusiasm, and make loads of money.

This is not materialistic. What do they say about enthusiasm? “it’s infectious” so it is your responsibility to be full of enthusiasm, because you will literally be making the world, around you, a happier place? And having money just allows you to amplify that.

Its simple you want an Epic Life and what ever that is is up to you but you create it by the use of your imagination and to direct that you ask yourself effective questions.  winston churchill

So what fills you full of enthusiasm? and if you don’t know, then ask a more effective question.

Have an awesome day.

 

Re-evaluating my goals.

My plan to speak at pendulum summit got derailed, for the past few months.

I set an audacious goal, and didn’t really know what I was getting myself in for.

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Just like all goals, plan A didn’t work also plan b, c,d, and e. But now finally after trailing and fail-learning and a bit of de-motivation, I am getting the picture back of what I wanted 9 months ago.

I can see myself speaking on stage and the energy in the place being off the charts. I know the type of energy I want, because I’ve was a DJ, and I know when a place is electric. 3 or 4 thousand people, with a real drive, to be the best that they can be. Just even saying this pumps me up.

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I got derailed like every one, my goal was going to take a lot more effort than I thought. But that is the mark of a real goal. Something that will grow you. I had all the pieces but had no idea how long and how to put them together.

My naive assumption at the start of the year was, I’d put out a bunch of videos and get traction, and that was it. Haha. So funny now. Totally delusional. But again that is the mark of a true goal.

So, I’ve melted my own head over, and over, just like every entrepreneur, and it didn’t seem as much fun, as it originally did. It started feeling like it was going to be a lot of hard work.

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My plan originally was to do a bit of online marketing, and get a job with Pendulum Summit doing marketing, network with all the top people, and develop an opportunity that way.

What has come about, is I’ve had to start a media company, to build my own brand, which still doesn’t exist. So I’ve had to do a lot of study, and growing, than originally planned.

I started a meet up group,(The Epic Life Group) because I needed experience as an actual speaker. Yea that’s how delusional, this goal was. I fucking love it. Totally nuts.

Because I got disillusioned by the scale of things, my energy started to go, and I realized, I had a lot less time, than I originally thought. I was aiming to have all my stuff together at the end of the year, and I’d get a place to speak. But thanks to DJ and Journalist, Mark Kavanagh, I realized I had a lot less time. I actually had to get my shit together months in advance, because that is when they would finalize the lineup. Yea as I said I was delusional. Haha

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So through setting up the Meet-up group, that became much more interesting, and of much more value, than speaking at pendulum summit. I was getting in a small way, what I was aiming for in speaking at Pendulum.

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I said to myself, sure if I just build this group to thousands of people, I wont need pendulum.

So I carried on with that vision for a few months and had to think about growing the group, so I started reading lots of books, and marketing stuff, primarily @garyvee and today I realized, that I was struggling with my marketing message.

I realized that I had no direction, for what I was doing, I lost my north star. My vision had evaporated.

I was reading this stuff to grow the group, but to what end. It was vague and mushy.

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Over the past few months, I had felt this vagueness, but I had no idea what it was. I went from being proactive, to just reading stuff that seemed like being productive, but it wasn’t leading anywhere.

I am reminded again, and again, that we have to have a north star, a destination, a goal because, that puts what we are doing, now, in context, and gives what we are doing, now, purpose.

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I was proactively lost.

I can even see it in the epic life group, I had lost that drive to grow, by being vague, and the group, I feel,could feel that too. Every bit of content I was putting out was great, but it lacked that bit of drive, and conviction, that direction. What we are all doing this for. We want epic lives, that is why, we are here, and that energy, was faltering.

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I understand on a whole new level, the purpose of goals, so much more now. Goals are not to be attained, but they are there as tools to help you grow.

The goal itself is irrelevant, the journey is the most important thing. It is who you become as a result of your journey, that is most important. But! the goal gives you direction.

This goal has gone from being something fun, to something much more serious, it is now become a mark of my growth, as a man, a person, as a person who can make a difference, to his own life, and as a result the people around him.

The goal has gone from being a selfish one, to one that I hope will empower others.

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I know now, that I am mad late, on speaking at pendulum, but miracles happen every day.

I am re-energized, and clear again on what I want to do, and why. We all go through these processes. If you are to take one thing away from this, is just keep going, keep moving forward, and things will become clear eventually.

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If  I had have stopped, I would not have a second chance now, and I gave myself that second chance.

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My energy and clarity is back.

I see myself in the Dublin Exhibition Center speaking to 3 thousand people, and bringing them on a journey that empowers the fuck out of them. I see the place going nuts, for themselves, because they will see how far, they have come, through my story.

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If I can be so delusional, and keep going, so can anyone. I can tell you now, I am 100% a better person for all the effort I have put in. Win, loose, or draw I have grown, and that is the real purpose of goals.

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I can not go back to who I was, and one way or another, I am going to have better things because of this.

I look forward to meeting you on our Epic Journey’s

 

The most important thing, you could ever do!

Setting your mentality for the day.

Imagine waking up, and the first thing you notice, is how tired you still feel. Like that 8 hours of sleep, has just been a waste of time. You have just fucked up your sleep and you already feel like a looser.

In bed tired.

I have done this way too much. Starting off my days in completely the most dis-empowering way possible.

I’m sure you have heard, what I am about to say already, and it’s probably made sense to you.

What I want to ask you, is why haven’t you done it? I want you to ask yourself, why you haven’t done it?

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I don’t feel like it, it’s too hard when I’m tired, I don’t think of it. whatever your complaints are I’ve used them. I have gotten into looser mode first thing.

What it boiled down to for me is, I didn’t put me, as high enough priority in my life. I was a whinger and a moaner.

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I was going with the flow, wake up, and see what happens. No direction.

I knew all the right stuff, but wasn’t doing it, because, I just didn’t feel like it.

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I’d try it for a bit, and then let just let old ways win out.

Now, I want you to imagine, what it would be like, to feel awesome every day, grateful every day, and excited to see what happens?

All good things are the opposite side of effort. Even in the smallest way. You have to get up off your bum, to get an ice-cream from the fridge.

This is so important I’ll say it twice, “all good things are the opposite side of effort”.

So how can you expect to have a good day, if you don’t put any effort into it?

Hope is the most destructive thing, on this planet!

Hope gets you nothing! Effort gets you something!

What would happen if you put energy into your day? If you said, thank you, for a bed to lye, thank you, for the house that keeps me out of the wind. Be grateful for what ever you want.

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Then you start creating how you want your day to go. I am going to meet this person and have an awesome time no matter what. We are going to have fun. I’m going to enjoy the drive to work today. What ever you want, you can choose how you want to feel about it.

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Imagine taking charge of yourself and your day!! How awesome would that be? I can I willImagine putting effort into how much fun your life is going to be, just because you decided to?

Take 1 minute now and do this. Say with a smile on your face, feel silly and put real energy into it. I feel fantastic, I feel fantastic, I feel fantastic, the rest of today is going to be awesome! just pay attention to how you feel, now?
Drive that energy now, this is literally the most important thing, you could do for your, whole life,    Feel_Awesome-606x230 right now. Take full charge, and have an awesome day! Choose to feel better, choose to have fun, choose to feel awesome, now! you are in charge!

It’s your choice!

Connecting To Your Heart.

Over the past 6 months while I’ve been on this trip to speaking at Pendulum Summit I’ve been hit with a multitude of issues and whilst all of them have been a pain, they are good. They have focused me.

heart-462873The biggest thing I’ve learned (again) is that you have to do what you love. What I had to learn was how to get into my heart, actually connect with myself. Due to partying and the usual growing up traumas I cut myself off from my emotions. I was happy in my numb-ness, but this caused a huge problem I couldn’t connect with what I wanted. From the outside I was enthusiastic and trying new things, but each thing had no meaning, they were just interesting. When I decided to become a DJ, when I was 20 ish at a Fatboy slim concert, that was a huge emotional confirmation I WANT THIS nothing before, or since has had that effect on me. Everything was just so so. But DJing was a different story, I could be free.

Now after doing some serious soul searching and energetic clearing, I’ve been able to connect more and more with my heart, the mad thing is that connecting with your heart is so much harder, and easier than you could imagine.

heartbeat-163709If I look back at my life, well the last 16 years at least I kinda have been connected, but the context was all wrong. The only things that have interested me is mad things, like jumping out of planes, DJing to mad crowds, and just trying new things in general. I did not want a specific thing, “my heart’s desire”.

I always thought that my heart desire would be something like ending poverty. or feeding the homeless. But in reality what makes me excited, is strange, different, quirky, and mad things. new, new, different. I always thought that, that was just me, who I was, but that wasn’t what my heart’s desire was.

eyes-421781My heart’s desire is simply just “I like mad things” different, new, change.

I’ve come to realize that because my heart’s desire was so close, I could not see it. It is literally how I operated. It was literally what made me excited, enthusiastic, and curious. But what did I want to do with that. What could I do with that?

People are passionate about making money, they are passionate about blogging, making videos, entrepreneurship / business or some other thing. I was interested in these things, but my heart just wasn’t into it, so I just kept running out of steam, after the initial curiosity wore off.

So what does all this mean now? Well its changed things around for me. I don’t want things, I want experiences, that fill me full of enthusiasm, excitement, and feed my curiosity.fitness-540263

Understanding the feelings I wanted, helped me connect with what I wanted to do, to get them.

Our hearts desire is a feeling not a thing. This was a revelation to me. I wanted fun, as much fun as possible.

This enabled me to think about this whole thing another way. It enabled me to ask a better question!

landscape-640617I asked what will be the best way for me to get the most experiences, while having the most fun, and earning plenty of money. I came back around to blogging, but this time its blogging with a purpose, I want to have an epic life. I want to do it all. And I suspect you do too. But an awesome life for me, and for you are two different things. You may see an awesome life as having your own house and I see traveling as a much higher priority. But either way the process we go through will be the same.

I’ve come full circle on my goal for this year. I’m six months in, and I haven’t blogged in a month, because I got derailed. I got derailed because of one thing. I wasn’t connected to my heart, I did not have that, I ran out of steam, I could not see why I was doing this anymore. Because I wasn’t’ fully clear on what I wanted in the first place.

I want to do mad things and show the world that everything is possible. To do that, I want to speak at the premier speaking event in the whole country. Why because its mad and I feel it will have a positive impact on the people around me. Why because I’m nobody, and if a nobody can do this, well then pretty much anything is possible, if your heart is in it.glow-1177383

So let’s do some mad stuff, lets have lots of fun, and see what is possible. I’m re-energised and I hope you are too.

My Chronic Fatigue Story

Chronic-FatigueOver the past 10 years I’ve struggled with chronic fatigue and Fibromyalgia I have
tried every treatment and therapy known to man, but no success. That’s I because I was looking in the wrong place for the solution to my issue.

This crept up on me gradually, bit by bit, I had to go back to bed, more and more each day. First I went to the doctor, and that was of no use. Then I went to Nutritionists, Dietitians, Naturopaths, Ayurveda, you name it i did it. I started doing course after course, and I kept getting worse and worse. At the height of it I could barely work, I was completely dependent, on my parents, to survive. I was only functional for a few hours a day.

bernarr-macfadden-fighting-disease-with-vitalityI have noticed a pattern with clients. We are very alike, different races, creeds and body types, but we have one key trait that shines through it all. We all have ambition, but unfortunately we are hindered by our energy levels. We get frustrated, stressed, and this just compounds the whole matter. We are driven, but that drive is actually what Is causing the problem.

As I have worked through my own stuff I’ve gone to 100’s of experts in lots of different fields searching for the solution. I was always looking externally to myself what chemical what imbalance what cure can I get for this.

fibromyalgia-1What I have found is that Chronic Fatigue is the result, but not the cause. It is the result of a whole chain of things. If your look at the result, not the cause you will never find a solution, because your looking completely in the wrong place.

Let me explain this in a slightly abstract way. Imagine one million years ago when we were walking around the jungle and a big animal jumps out to attack us, we go sprinting as fast as we can, this is the fight or flight response, or stress. Our bodies are really smart and because we need all our energy and physical resources to go to our muscles, our body shuts down non essential parts of our bodies, like our digestive system, when stressed. The person gets away and then relaxes and his body returns to normal.

hqdefaultThere are no dangers like that in our lives, but we still have the same system operating in the background. Our body doesn’t know the difference between an animal and work stress or the stress of having to pay bills. where do people get butterflies when they are about to get up on stage?

The problem is we are in a constant state of stress every day. Stress going to work, stress in work, stress coming home and stress on the news. We are in a constant state of stress so our bodies do not normalize anymore.

If our digestive system is constantly not fully engaged then we have food that sits in our digestive system, and causes irritation, then we develop food intolerance’s. Because it is not fully turned on, we don’t absorb the right nutrients. We are in a heightened state of alertness, so we are burning more and more vitamins, at the exact time we are not absorbing them! We are running our engines with little or no oil, to keep it in peak performance. On top or all that because we are tired we tend to want more calorie rich food like chocolate sugar and carbs, but these again are not going to replace what we need. On top of that again we drink caffeine which literally turns on our stress hormones (adrenaline) to boost our energy which adds more pressure on a completely exhausted system.

Do you see where this is going? So we are running on empty, not just empty but on a deficit. We are running ourselves into the ground.

But all of that stress started in our perceptions of what was going on! It all started in our decisions about what is going on in our world. Everything chases back to our thoughts, options, and decisions. They either stress us out or not!

This is why my blog is called Health Starts In The Mind because everything in our lives starts in our mind. Our thoughts create our reality.

FibromyalgiaThis had a cascade effect in my body as I got more stressed, I thought more how to fix it, as I through more how to fix it, I got more stressed. Bit by bit my body started to shut down and the external effects of my thought patterns started to show up. I was getting more tired and sleeping more, but not getting a proper rest, then because of inactivity, my legs and back started to ache. So I started to look at what was making me tired and sore. But that was the wrong place. I had to take control of my thoughts.

HealthSo what changed? I got pissed off really pissed off I realized that I’d have to figure this out myself.  Bit by bit I worked through my food intolerance’s and worked on upping my nutrition by eating better foods. But I would only get so far, I’d improve then my stress levels would catch up with my health, and I’d start going downhill again. Then I really started to change how I perceived the world. I started to really delve into how my mind worked. I started to learn how reality worked and started to change that for the better. HealthyThe more I worked on my thoughts the more I de-stressed the more I de-stressed the more energy I had. I learnt how to focus on what I wanted not what I didn’t want. I wanted to be full of energy and enthusiasm. Reading about sickness only made me stressed, and as a result sick.

I’ve noticed over and over that people who have chronic fatigue, fibromyalgia ME and depression, are all smart people with ambition. Any of the ones that heal all have a moment where they say no more! They call it rock bottom, where they decide what they are doing isn’t working, and it’s time to do something else. To start thinking differently!

Today I’m one of the healthiest people you will meet. I do get tired but that is because I do too much. but I regulate it way better now and i work with my body. I don’t stress about it i just do what is right for me and move on. Nice and easy.

Let me ask you what do you want? Do you want to be “not sick” or full of “Vitality and H



ealth”? I know what I want. So what are you going to change today?

What fear really is.

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Fear is a tricky thing to deal with. But once examined it becomes nothing more than a thought that passes in the night.

What is fear? Fear as a term is too abstract, to intangible to be able to put anything Fear is the mind killersolid on it, to figure a way around. If you had a road block you figure out another direction. But with fear its nebulous thing that actually pops up in your way whichever way you turn.

The word fear makes us believe it’s a thing like a chair but it’s not. It is a made up word to represent the result of something not the actual cause. By looking at the result all the time you are blinded to the cause.

I now see fear on a spectrum. One end you see the word fear and on the other end you see the word trust.

Let’s take an example. People have a fear of flying, but what is that. How many people a year die from flying? fear-of-flyingNot many in the grand scheme of things. Where did that fear come from? Planes are only around the past 100 years. Did someone invent it? That sounds mad that someone would invent it, but the really mad thing is that it was invented. Somebody had to come up with a medical term for it. Aviophobia is the term. Who came up with that and who was the first person diagnosed with it what was it called before it was Aviophobia?

Why are people afraid of flying and not of cookers? More people each year die from cooker related stuff. The mad thing is people are often afraid of planes and have never been on one. Yet everyone has used a cooker, been burnt, not once but many times, and you are 100% guaranteed to get burnt again. So what’s the difference?

Why do you get scared when you go to the cinema and see a scary movie? You know walking in that it’s fake, it’s not real, but you get carried away and get scared anyway? Why is that? It’s because we have imaginations. We can imagine ourselves in that position and how we would feel if something was going wrong. Is that situation real? Why do we get a real response? Because in our minds reality and fantasy are no different.

So what is happening when people have a fear of flying? Are they simply just imagining themselves in a compromised position? Are they fantasizing about something going wrong?

Being-Awesome-takes-practiceHow would they feel if they started imagining everything being awesome? Would that start to make them feel good?

Either way they are playing a story in their head, that is dis-empowering them, or empowering them but it is just a story!

Just to be clear what is a story? A story is something that is made up or imaginary and can be changed at any time. If someone decided to do some hypnotism on a poor unfortunate victim would he be able to make that person afraid of cookers? How does he do that? How he does that is by implanting a story in that persons head that cookers are dangerous.

Where are fears? Fears are always in the future they may be seconds away but none the less they are in the future.

Dark alleySo what happens when we walk down a dark alley at night, and we start to get scared? What is happening there? Are we imagining a good future or a bad one, based on what evidence? All we have is a dark alley? And we heard that someone some time somewhere got mugged? But are you in danger? Or are you imagining it?

Hopefully you’re seeing a pattern now fears are imaginary and a story that we are telling ourselves.

So why are they so dis-empowering? Because we believe them! It’s really that simple.

So let’s flip the whole thing let’s stop looking at fears altogether, and start looking at people who are fearless.

Fear of heightsWe have all seen people who are not afraid of heights, why is that? Quite often they are people who have worked on ladders or done rock climbing or something to that effect? So why are they fearless? Is it because they are familiar with heights? To a large degree yes but that is still looking at the result not the cause. They know it’s dangerous yet they still do it. The fear doesn’t seem to exist?
Let’s go back to the alley. Would a person who has a black belt in some martial art, be as afraid as you or I, walking through that alley? Probably not. Why is that? Would you say this person has more confidence? What is confidence? Confidence is self-trust. That black belt trusts himself and his skills to keep him safe, so in that situation he actually won’t even think about any danger until something presented itself.

Like the people who are not afraid of heights they trust themselves they trust that Self Trustthey are going to be safe because experience tells them that. This is the true cause of fear. People do not trust themselves or life because of the stories they tell themselves.

It is the same with you, and a cooker. You have enough trust in yourself, that you will be ok. You may get burned, but you will deal with that when it happens. The danger is there but I trust myself that I will be able to deal with it when it arises. So there is no point in thinking about it now.

So what is fear really fear is really an external representation of your own lack of self-trust? So what’s the solution? Its simple learn to trust yourself look at all the times you have overcome some issue or another. How many dangerous roads have you crossed with no incident what so ever. Look at how much you have survived already. The evidence is overwhelming that you’re going to be alright. So why do I still feel fearful? Basically because the news fills you full of fear full stories and your friends tell you about how they do not trust themselves and fill us full of their fears. So you have to practice every time you feel bad, laugh and say gees I got caught up in that story. If you put your effort into all the things your already good at you will trust yourself more and more.

So what is the result of trust? Success isSelf trust is the first secret to success. the result of trust. Can you think of any wealthy happy or powerful person who doesn’t trust themselves? They all believe in themselves that is the only thing they do differently.

So go to places and do things that build your self-trust push your capabilities don’t face your fears don’t even bother with them. Tell yourself the story that you want and play it over and over. If you’re afraid of heights stand Visualize yourself being perfectly comfortable in that situation then go stand on high things until you completely trust yourself in those situations.I Love Me

Where is fear when you’re visualizing an empowering story? It simply doesn’t exist.

Would trusting yourself be loving yourself?

Frustration to freedom.

This week as things changed for me. I got a bit lost and the momentum went. The enthusiasm evaporated, and frustration set in.

How many times have you sat at your desk with your head in your hands trying to figure out your next step? Maybe a big problem has arisen and you’re unsure what to do. You get this churn in your stomach and chest and you feel stuck blank and lost. I’m sure if you’re anything like me it has happened to many times.Frustration-sign-600x600

What now? You’re just caught in a cycle. I don’t know what to do, and I’ve no way of digging myself out of this.

I hope you’re feeling the feelings now (I am) because I’ve been very manipulative in my wording. I want you to just realize that if I can make you feel them just by writing about them what are they really.

More and more I’m becoming grateful for these hardships, because they are like lifting weights the more you do the easier it gets. I’ve noticed a marked increase, in how quickly I can adjust my attitude now, in comparison to years ago. I notice quicker what is going on in me, and I have a number of things I can do to get those feelings moving again.

This situation is challenging to get out of because the feeling of stuckedness actually keeps your brain stressed and unable to think about what you’d actually want to do. It inhibits the imagination because you just want to get rid of the feeling, not day dream about your future and enjoyment.

If I can make you feel stuck and frustrated just by using a few words what is causing that feeling?

Essentially it’s your thoughts, your association with what I’m talking about, and you using past experiences to make that real now.

What would happen if you decided to use the exact same mechanism against its self? What would happen if you started using words that empowered you, instead of saying “stuck” you said “I’ve to get something moving in me, to get a different emotion”, a more resourceful emotion?Frustration to freedom

What happened for me is I got suck. I felt disconnected from my goals and I knew it. But I focused on the feeling (stuckedness) and got more frustrated. As soon as I used the correct language I started to feel great again. I started to say “I want to connect with my goals” “what can I do, to do that”? So I listened to really fast music and went for a walk thinking about my next step. Rather than saying what do I want? This is too big, and vague, I asked what do I want next in my life. It’s amazing how just those few extra words changed everything for me. They gave me greater clarity.

The next thing in my life is a new apartment in a very prestigious apartment block in the city center. I am excited, because I will literally be moving up in the world. Even if it’s only a few flights of stairs. Ha ha.

Let me know what you think, how this effected you, and what you do, to get you going again.

The only thing between you and success are the words you use.

WordsImagine we started using more effective language regarding processing our problems. Instead of saying “I have no money” we said something like “how can I get more money”.

How do those two statements feel to you? “I have no money” is true but it has no way out. No way of letting your imagination (energy) flow, to get you to your solution.

How does saying “How can I get more money” feel? It instantly assumes there is a path (flow of energy) towards what you want.

What happens when you use even more effective words? “What ways can I get more money”?spiritualpaths

How does the third version feel to you?

What other words can you use to get you to where you want to go?

What you actually want.

In my last post I talked about setting goals, and using day dreams to expand your horizon. How by setting big goals, we expand our thinking beyond where it is at the moment, and in turn that changes how we view this moment.

We set big goals. But by their very nature they are unattainable without small goals. We set top down goals then bottom up goals and somewhere in the middle, they meet.

I left out one important thing in all this. How do we define what we actually want? This has been one of the hardest things for me to figure out, and I’m guessing you are similar.

Amazingly this is a difficult thing to do by its very nature. Because we see the results of desires not the desires themselves.

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Well what we actually want is not a thing, but a way of being. We see things like Ferrari’s with smiling models, and we can connect with the fun of driving one of them. We say that’s what I want!  But that is not what you want, that represents what you actually want.

Ask yourself if I had boat loads of money and was able to get every THING, what would I actually want then? cars boats and houses become boring after a while.

Would you want Success? If you go back to the Ferrari and the model, I said that it wasn’t what they were that you wanted, it was what they represented, is actually what you wanted, and yes that is success, but what is success? Success is always, at the core of it, happiness. Soooooooo after you had everything. What would actually make you happy? Consistently day by day?

I will simplify things for you. We only ever want one thing, but we want it in millions of ways. We want to add value to the world. We want to make a difference, we want to contribute to either people or the planet. Be of benefit in some way. Now how you do that is up to you. But you can do that NOW, you don’t need millions, or maybe you will make millions as a by-product of helping people?

All businesses make peoples lives better, in some way. All jobs make businesses work better, to serve people in some way.

How can you add value to the world? What do you do now that is fun for you?e392c307d038953654b7b88a6110669b

One other thing is that we add that value (service) by being ourselves to the best of our abilities. Imagine if you were happy all the time, how would that affect your friends and family? Would it make them happier? Or at least you more tolerable. Ha ha.

Your purpose is to be the best you, you can be, because that literally changes the world, one person at a time.

What you actually want, is who you want to be, and that starts here and now.

I hope you enjoyed this post and your head isn’t too fried. But that is part of learning.  Constantly growing and stretching.

I’d love to read what you think about this post.

Have an awesome day.

The Difference between success and failure is enthusiasm.

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The people who love what they are doing, are getting ahead and that is because that is what they want to do. They enjoy overcoming challenges and seeing what they are capable of, or they feel that they are making a difference to the world. But what do they have that we don’t? Why do they like what they are doing and we don’t?

What is enthusiasm???????????? Is it this esoteric thing that bestows enjoyment on you, or is it something you can cultivate????? We have all experienced it at one time or another, but how can we get more of it?

Let’s start at the start. This is literally the most important blog post you will ever read!!!!!  This blog post will show you how reality “really” is, how to manipulate it and change everything in your life with one simple word. ENTHUSIASM.

What is reality? Reality is literally what ever we say it is!!! You say “that is a table”, someone else will say “it’s a bed”, if that is what they have been taught all their lives. Someone else, will say, “Its wood”, or “it’s ugly”. Really think about this for a second. Who says that anything is what it is? As a group of people we agree a certain term for something and then that term becomes what it is called from then on in. If you break everything down to its simplest components, reality is just energy (atoms are just energy) that is really all we can say anything really is. But what does all that mean, basically it means that reality is what we say it is. If enough people agree that something is something then it becomes a fact. This means we can manipulate reality to whatever we want. Call a cow a dog and a horse a cat if you like. Whatever story we want to tell, we can tell. It may not be effective in life but we have the power to do that.

But what does all that really mean. Not a whole lot until you put it together with this. There is no good or bad in reality. Good and bad is just a human construct to describe pain a pleasure. Someone will have a car crash and say it’s the best thing that ever happened them, because it made them realise that they want to live life to the fullest. Whereas someone else will say it ruined their life… what makes it good or bad is the story we tell ourselves. Just like reality, we can change that story to whatever we want. Lots of successful business people will tell you that the failures they had starting out in business, taught them the best lessons to become successful. All business people who fail will have the exact opposite story. The successful people just changed their story and learnt the lessons that where presented to them and moved on turning a challenge into a success.How to be happy

I’m sure you have heard that positive people succeed more than negative people. Positive people just know how to manipulate reality to what suits them. Essentially they just say the story that gets them to where they want to be, rather than the story of why they cannot get to where they want to be.

But what is positive and negative? Think about this for a second!!! We all know the terms but very few people actually know what positivity actually is. It is an abstract term and the abstract terms of positive and negative are keeping people paralysed. They are saying I want to be more positive (which is a negative term) or be positive, be positive, be positive, but that is negative also.

So what is positive and negative? Imagine this for a second, Imagine a person in front of you that you completely love, you want the absolute best for them. How would you speak to them? Would you say you’re an idiot or would you say you’re great? How do those terms feel to you now? One is painful and one is nice. How do you speak to yourself? Positive and negative are actually abstract terms for love and fear. When you say to that person you love “you can do it” you are loving them you are seeing them for what they are really capable of. What happens if you say “you can’t” you are fearful because you believe that they MAY!! Get hurt, or you’re seeing them through your own fears of not being good enough.

Positive and negative are Love and Fear. If you speak with fearful language it’s always pulling away. I’m afraid of that thing over there! Loving language is I’m curious about that thing over there. It is the exact same situation but the different words completely change the reality of the situation.

The language we use changes how we feel and as a result either makes us fearful or loving. What sort of language do you use? Does it tear you down by focusing on what you can’t do, or does it build you up by focusing on what you can do? There is always a positive to every single Achievementsituation. Stop now and think about a negative situation you have in your life, that you want to change, and make this statement to yourself. “I know there are some positive aspects to this!! What have I learned? How have I grown? and how can I take charge of my life to make this situation better” stick at it until you start finding something loving, positive and at that point you will know how to literally manipulate all of your reality, to what you want. You will be a positive (loving) person to yourself? How are you going to start talking to yourself now? Are you going to talk to yourself like you hate or love yourself? Now you know how to be nice to yourself, you were able to put that person in front of you and talk nice to them? So now you know how to build yourself up.

I told you this was the most important post you will ever read. Imagine now you literally know that reality is what you say it is, you have learnt how to love yourself (literally talking nice to yourself) you have learnt that you can change every situation into a positive, so now you are the master of your own universe!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! How is that making you feel now?

What does all that have to do with enthusiasm getting you successful? Now that you are master of your universe do you feel more enthusiastic about life? Do you feel more capable? Essentially I’ve been manipulating your mind this whole post. Sneakily I’ve been proving to you that you can, you can, you can, you can do it! How does that feel? How is hearing “you can” making you feel now? I’m positive that it is making you feel good. Are you feeling good for your future? That is what enthusiasm is, it is feeling good now, for what is coming in your future. Imagine you at Christmas, you wrote your letter to Santa and got excited, you put the decorations on your tree and got excited, you counted down your days and got excited. Essentially you were checking off the things that got you closer to your goal and that got you excited. You loved life…. And that is a really important statement “you loved life” you loved every part of it. So loving life is actually what enthusiasm is. It is love in action. How much energy do you get from loving what you do?

Now the serious bit. Are you doing what you love, because if you are not, you dread (fear) going in to work, you dislike the people, atmosphere, buss, whatever. Either way that fear is pulling you back from what you do not like, and that takes energy. How has this one paragraph hit you? Do you feel more or less energy now than you did a couple of seconds ago?  Can you feel how your language is changing your energy, enthusiasm and life?

More seriousness. How are you to succeed in a job you do not like, if your body is literally fighting against its self? How can you get ahead in that sort of state? To put it simply you can’t. There is someone out there with enthusiasm, for what they are doing, and they are going to sail right by you.

The shit has really hit the fan now!!!!! But remember all that we have learnt. You are the master of your reality you can write it any way you want. How can you start talking nice to yourself now, to make yourself feel more energised and enthusiastic now? How can you start steering your ship to a destination that you want?????????? What questions do you have to ask yourself to get you bouncing out of your seat?happy-baby-turtle-is-happy

This is the exciting stuff now. We are really going to mess things up now. What is success? Money, fame, achievement, remember you can manipulate everything to what you want. Success is what you say it is, because success is a feeling. We have all heard of famous people killing themselves, rich people being unhappy, and met high achievers who were miserable. Success is an emotion. You can feel successful by climbing the stairs, coming up with a great idea, or by fixing something. You feel like a success by the story you tell yourself. How have you succeeded today have you put on your clothes the right way for the millionth time in a row? Success like reality is what we say it is!!! Say this… “I am successful!” what do you not believe it? Then say this “I am successful at something” “I have successfully done something’s today” this is completely true “You are a success”!!!!

They say success breeds success and it does. If you focus on your wins, each day, how will you feel? Better or worse about yourself? I’m sure it’s better… do you want to talk to losers who moan? Not me anyway. So if you’re focused on your wins and you feel better what sort of people would you like to hang around with? I’m pretty sure it’s the same sort of people as you?? And they will want to talk to you also….. This is the law of attraction at work. Success attracts success, you attracts success by focusing on what you want and manipulating reality to what makes you feel good, this makes you enthusiastic for life.

Enthusiasm is loving what you are doing now, so that you can get what you want in the future. Just like saving for a holiday.  It may be hard putting that money away each week, but it makes you feel good now watching it grow for that reward in the future. Being enthusiastic every day for your life literally brings opportunities to you, because you attract people that are like minded and will move you towards the life of your dreams. How do you become enthusiastic every day is by focusing on the positive (using positive (loving) language)(loving yourself) manipulating reality to what you want (which is focusing on your successes) each day by learning from every situation.nothing-is-so-contagious-as-enthusiasm

What is your focus going to be from now on? Every day in every way I’m noticing more and more success? Every day in every way I’m becoming happier and happier? Imagine walking around saying the word success what are you looking for? Your reality will start to change… Look around your room now and say success in your mind over and over and look at what pops out to you. What did you notice? I’m sure you seen something that reminded you of success… but this is the important thing…. While you were saying “success” you automatically delete everything that has nothing to do with it. Your reality is literally changed by what words you’re constantly saying to yourself. Are you saying you’re a winner the world will reflect that you will literally be searching for the things that prove that. This is a huge statement “what you focus on you get more of” if you’re saying the word red over and over you’re going to get red. If you say not poor what are you going to get? You’re going to get poor, poor, poor. What will happen if you say rich (which is what you really want) you will get rich. What you say you get more of. You do not get what you want by focusing on what you do not want you get what you want by saying over and over what you do want. I am becoming happier and happier every day I’m becoming wealthier every day. Just be careful that the words your using make you feel good, enthusiastic and energetic. Don’t get caught with out with statements like I want to be rich because that statement isn’t finished it has a but at the end of it I want to be rich “but I’m not” say I’m working on a new exciting job or I’m saving more and more money I’m becoming wealthier and wealthier. They are progressive statements.Challenge-Accepted-2f2xs0v

I see learning this like skipping a stone on water. You get it, then habit kicks in, and you forget it, but then you get it, then forget it, and get it, and forget it, then eventually your new habit is formed and it sinks in fully. If you read this post often you will get “it” more and more every day and you will get everything your heart desires.

You can literally manipulate reality now, to whatever you want. You are a Jedi of the world around you. So what is the future you’re going to create?

Please leave a comment on your new amazing enthusiastic life I’d love to hear it.