Re-evaluating my goals.

My plan to speak at pendulum summit got derailed, for the past few months.

I set an audacious goal, and didn’t really know what I was getting myself in for.

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Just like all goals, plan A didn’t work also plan b, c,d, and e. But now finally after trailing and fail-learning and a bit of de-motivation, I am getting the picture back of what I wanted 9 months ago.

I can see myself speaking on stage and the energy in the place being off the charts. I know the type of energy I want, because I’ve was a DJ, and I know when a place is electric. 3 or 4 thousand people, with a real drive, to be the best that they can be. Just even saying this pumps me up.

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I got derailed like every one, my goal was going to take a lot more effort than I thought. But that is the mark of a real goal. Something that will grow you. I had all the pieces but had no idea how long and how to put them together.

My naive assumption at the start of the year was, I’d put out a bunch of videos and get traction, and that was it. Haha. So funny now. Totally delusional. But again that is the mark of a true goal.

So, I’ve melted my own head over, and over, just like every entrepreneur, and it didn’t seem as much fun, as it originally did. It started feeling like it was going to be a lot of hard work.

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My plan originally was to do a bit of online marketing, and get a job with Pendulum Summit doing marketing, network with all the top people, and develop an opportunity that way.

What has come about, is I’ve had to start a media company, to build my own brand, which still doesn’t exist. So I’ve had to do a lot of study, and growing, than originally planned.

I started a meet up group,(The Epic Life Group) because I needed experience as an actual speaker. Yea that’s how delusional, this goal was. I fucking love it. Totally nuts.

Because I got disillusioned by the scale of things, my energy started to go, and I realized, I had a lot less time, than I originally thought. I was aiming to have all my stuff together at the end of the year, and I’d get a place to speak. But thanks to DJ and Journalist, Mark Kavanagh, I realized I had a lot less time. I actually had to get my shit together months in advance, because that is when they would finalize the lineup. Yea as I said I was delusional. Haha

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So through setting up the Meet-up group, that became much more interesting, and of much more value, than speaking at pendulum summit. I was getting in a small way, what I was aiming for in speaking at Pendulum.

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I said to myself, sure if I just build this group to thousands of people, I wont need pendulum.

So I carried on with that vision for a few months and had to think about growing the group, so I started reading lots of books, and marketing stuff, primarily @garyvee and today I realized, that I was struggling with my marketing message.

I realized that I had no direction, for what I was doing, I lost my north star. My vision had evaporated.

I was reading this stuff to grow the group, but to what end. It was vague and mushy.

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Over the past few months, I had felt this vagueness, but I had no idea what it was. I went from being proactive, to just reading stuff that seemed like being productive, but it wasn’t leading anywhere.

I am reminded again, and again, that we have to have a north star, a destination, a goal because, that puts what we are doing, now, in context, and gives what we are doing, now, purpose.

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I was proactively lost.

I can even see it in the epic life group, I had lost that drive to grow, by being vague, and the group, I feel,could feel that too. Every bit of content I was putting out was great, but it lacked that bit of drive, and conviction, that direction. What we are all doing this for. We want epic lives, that is why, we are here, and that energy, was faltering.

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I understand on a whole new level, the purpose of goals, so much more now. Goals are not to be attained, but they are there as tools to help you grow.

The goal itself is irrelevant, the journey is the most important thing. It is who you become as a result of your journey, that is most important. But! the goal gives you direction.

This goal has gone from being something fun, to something much more serious, it is now become a mark of my growth, as a man, a person, as a person who can make a difference, to his own life, and as a result the people around him.

The goal has gone from being a selfish one, to one that I hope will empower others.

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I know now, that I am mad late, on speaking at pendulum, but miracles happen every day.

I am re-energized, and clear again on what I want to do, and why. We all go through these processes. If you are to take one thing away from this, is just keep going, keep moving forward, and things will become clear eventually.

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If  I had have stopped, I would not have a second chance now, and I gave myself that second chance.

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My energy and clarity is back.

I see myself in the Dublin Exhibition Center speaking to 3 thousand people, and bringing them on a journey that empowers the fuck out of them. I see the place going nuts, for themselves, because they will see how far, they have come, through my story.

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If I can be so delusional, and keep going, so can anyone. I can tell you now, I am 100% a better person for all the effort I have put in. Win, loose, or draw I have grown, and that is the real purpose of goals.

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I can not go back to who I was, and one way or another, I am going to have better things because of this.

I look forward to meeting you on our Epic Journey’s

 

The most important thing, you could ever do!

Setting your mentality for the day.

Imagine waking up, and the first thing you notice, is how tired you still feel. Like that 8 hours of sleep, has just been a waste of time. You have just fucked up your sleep and you already feel like a looser.

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I have done this way too much. Starting off my days in completely the most dis-empowering way possible.

I’m sure you have heard, what I am about to say already, and it’s probably made sense to you.

What I want to ask you, is why haven’t you done it? I want you to ask yourself, why you haven’t done it?

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I don’t feel like it, it’s too hard when I’m tired, I don’t think of it. whatever your complaints are I’ve used them. I have gotten into looser mode first thing.

What it boiled down to for me is, I didn’t put me, as high enough priority in my life. I was a whinger and a moaner.

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I was going with the flow, wake up, and see what happens. No direction.

I knew all the right stuff, but wasn’t doing it, because, I just didn’t feel like it.

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I’d try it for a bit, and then let just let old ways win out.

Now, I want you to imagine, what it would be like, to feel awesome every day, grateful every day, and excited to see what happens?

All good things are the opposite side of effort. Even in the smallest way. You have to get up off your bum, to get an ice-cream from the fridge.

This is so important I’ll say it twice, “all good things are the opposite side of effort”.

So how can you expect to have a good day, if you don’t put any effort into it?

Hope is the most destructive thing, on this planet!

Hope gets you nothing! Effort gets you something!

What would happen if you put energy into your day? If you said, thank you, for a bed to lye, thank you, for the house that keeps me out of the wind. Be grateful for what ever you want.

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Then you start creating how you want your day to go. I am going to meet this person and have an awesome time no matter what. We are going to have fun. I’m going to enjoy the drive to work today. What ever you want, you can choose how you want to feel about it.

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Imagine taking charge of yourself and your day!! How awesome would that be? I can I willImagine putting effort into how much fun your life is going to be, just because you decided to?

Take 1 minute now and do this. Say with a smile on your face, feel silly and put real energy into it. I feel fantastic, I feel fantastic, I feel fantastic, the rest of today is going to be awesome! just pay attention to how you feel, now?
Drive that energy now, this is literally the most important thing, you could do for your, whole life,    Feel_Awesome-606x230 right now. Take full charge, and have an awesome day! Choose to feel better, choose to have fun, choose to feel awesome, now! you are in charge!

It’s your choice!

My Chronic Fatigue Story

Chronic-FatigueOver the past 10 years I’ve struggled with chronic fatigue and Fibromyalgia I have
tried every treatment and therapy known to man, but no success. That’s I because I was looking in the wrong place for the solution to my issue.

This crept up on me gradually, bit by bit, I had to go back to bed, more and more each day. First I went to the doctor, and that was of no use. Then I went to Nutritionists, Dietitians, Naturopaths, Ayurveda, you name it i did it. I started doing course after course, and I kept getting worse and worse. At the height of it I could barely work, I was completely dependent, on my parents, to survive. I was only functional for a few hours a day.

bernarr-macfadden-fighting-disease-with-vitalityI have noticed a pattern with clients. We are very alike, different races, creeds and body types, but we have one key trait that shines through it all. We all have ambition, but unfortunately we are hindered by our energy levels. We get frustrated, stressed, and this just compounds the whole matter. We are driven, but that drive is actually what Is causing the problem.

As I have worked through my own stuff I’ve gone to 100’s of experts in lots of different fields searching for the solution. I was always looking externally to myself what chemical what imbalance what cure can I get for this.

fibromyalgia-1What I have found is that Chronic Fatigue is the result, but not the cause. It is the result of a whole chain of things. If your look at the result, not the cause you will never find a solution, because your looking completely in the wrong place.

Let me explain this in a slightly abstract way. Imagine one million years ago when we were walking around the jungle and a big animal jumps out to attack us, we go sprinting as fast as we can, this is the fight or flight response, or stress. Our bodies are really smart and because we need all our energy and physical resources to go to our muscles, our body shuts down non essential parts of our bodies, like our digestive system, when stressed. The person gets away and then relaxes and his body returns to normal.

hqdefaultThere are no dangers like that in our lives, but we still have the same system operating in the background. Our body doesn’t know the difference between an animal and work stress or the stress of having to pay bills. where do people get butterflies when they are about to get up on stage?

The problem is we are in a constant state of stress every day. Stress going to work, stress in work, stress coming home and stress on the news. We are in a constant state of stress so our bodies do not normalize anymore.

If our digestive system is constantly not fully engaged then we have food that sits in our digestive system, and causes irritation, then we develop food intolerance’s. Because it is not fully turned on, we don’t absorb the right nutrients. We are in a heightened state of alertness, so we are burning more and more vitamins, at the exact time we are not absorbing them! We are running our engines with little or no oil, to keep it in peak performance. On top or all that because we are tired we tend to want more calorie rich food like chocolate sugar and carbs, but these again are not going to replace what we need. On top of that again we drink caffeine which literally turns on our stress hormones (adrenaline) to boost our energy which adds more pressure on a completely exhausted system.

Do you see where this is going? So we are running on empty, not just empty but on a deficit. We are running ourselves into the ground.

But all of that stress started in our perceptions of what was going on! It all started in our decisions about what is going on in our world. Everything chases back to our thoughts, options, and decisions. They either stress us out or not!

This is why my blog is called Health Starts In The Mind because everything in our lives starts in our mind. Our thoughts create our reality.

FibromyalgiaThis had a cascade effect in my body as I got more stressed, I thought more how to fix it, as I through more how to fix it, I got more stressed. Bit by bit my body started to shut down and the external effects of my thought patterns started to show up. I was getting more tired and sleeping more, but not getting a proper rest, then because of inactivity, my legs and back started to ache. So I started to look at what was making me tired and sore. But that was the wrong place. I had to take control of my thoughts.

HealthSo what changed? I got pissed off really pissed off I realized that I’d have to figure this out myself.  Bit by bit I worked through my food intolerance’s and worked on upping my nutrition by eating better foods. But I would only get so far, I’d improve then my stress levels would catch up with my health, and I’d start going downhill again. Then I really started to change how I perceived the world. I started to really delve into how my mind worked. I started to learn how reality worked and started to change that for the better. HealthyThe more I worked on my thoughts the more I de-stressed the more I de-stressed the more energy I had. I learnt how to focus on what I wanted not what I didn’t want. I wanted to be full of energy and enthusiasm. Reading about sickness only made me stressed, and as a result sick.

I’ve noticed over and over that people who have chronic fatigue, fibromyalgia ME and depression, are all smart people with ambition. Any of the ones that heal all have a moment where they say no more! They call it rock bottom, where they decide what they are doing isn’t working, and it’s time to do something else. To start thinking differently!

Today I’m one of the healthiest people you will meet. I do get tired but that is because I do too much. but I regulate it way better now and i work with my body. I don’t stress about it i just do what is right for me and move on. Nice and easy.

Let me ask you what do you want? Do you want to be “not sick” or full of “Vitality and H



ealth”? I know what I want. So what are you going to change today?

How we learn, develop habits, and fill ourselves full of enthusiasm.

I used to beat myself up for not being perfect first time I did anything. I was shown how to do something, surely I should be able to do it right? I’d go off into a mental spin of self criticism, essentially saying I’m not good enough, useless and stupid.

Someone forgot to tell me how we actually learn things. I now see habits and Learning in the same way. It’s like a skipping stone on the water. The stone hits the top of the water and bounces up and then skips along the top of the water, quicker and quicker and quicker, until it eventually slows down and sinks in.

We all learn and develop habits in the same way. We get it, forget it and get it, forget it again and again, but each time the sequence is happening faster and faster, then eventually it sinks in.skipping_sonte

Some people do learn faster, but that may be due to them practicing something similar in their life. Either way there is no point in thinking about it.

Just focus on what you can learn now and how you can improve. All of the beating myself up just demotivated me, and now I just don’t think about doing it wrong, I just focus on how I can do it better.

Which way of thinking do you think is more effective, enjoyable, and enthusiastic? Ultimately what was the original point of beating ourselves up? Surely to get it right, so we can enjoy ourselves.

One way (beating ourselves up) demotivates us. The other way (focusing on what we actually want) motivates us.

So why beat ourselves up when we can just focus on learning and doing it right.

Have a day full of enthusiasm.

The Difference between success and failure is enthusiasm.

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The people who love what they are doing, are getting ahead and that is because that is what they want to do. They enjoy overcoming challenges and seeing what they are capable of, or they feel that they are making a difference to the world. But what do they have that we don’t? Why do they like what they are doing and we don’t?

What is enthusiasm???????????? Is it this esoteric thing that bestows enjoyment on you, or is it something you can cultivate????? We have all experienced it at one time or another, but how can we get more of it?

Let’s start at the start. This is literally the most important blog post you will ever read!!!!!  This blog post will show you how reality “really” is, how to manipulate it and change everything in your life with one simple word. ENTHUSIASM.

What is reality? Reality is literally what ever we say it is!!! You say “that is a table”, someone else will say “it’s a bed”, if that is what they have been taught all their lives. Someone else, will say, “Its wood”, or “it’s ugly”. Really think about this for a second. Who says that anything is what it is? As a group of people we agree a certain term for something and then that term becomes what it is called from then on in. If you break everything down to its simplest components, reality is just energy (atoms are just energy) that is really all we can say anything really is. But what does all that mean, basically it means that reality is what we say it is. If enough people agree that something is something then it becomes a fact. This means we can manipulate reality to whatever we want. Call a cow a dog and a horse a cat if you like. Whatever story we want to tell, we can tell. It may not be effective in life but we have the power to do that.

But what does all that really mean. Not a whole lot until you put it together with this. There is no good or bad in reality. Good and bad is just a human construct to describe pain a pleasure. Someone will have a car crash and say it’s the best thing that ever happened them, because it made them realise that they want to live life to the fullest. Whereas someone else will say it ruined their life… what makes it good or bad is the story we tell ourselves. Just like reality, we can change that story to whatever we want. Lots of successful business people will tell you that the failures they had starting out in business, taught them the best lessons to become successful. All business people who fail will have the exact opposite story. The successful people just changed their story and learnt the lessons that where presented to them and moved on turning a challenge into a success.How to be happy

I’m sure you have heard that positive people succeed more than negative people. Positive people just know how to manipulate reality to what suits them. Essentially they just say the story that gets them to where they want to be, rather than the story of why they cannot get to where they want to be.

But what is positive and negative? Think about this for a second!!! We all know the terms but very few people actually know what positivity actually is. It is an abstract term and the abstract terms of positive and negative are keeping people paralysed. They are saying I want to be more positive (which is a negative term) or be positive, be positive, be positive, but that is negative also.

So what is positive and negative? Imagine this for a second, Imagine a person in front of you that you completely love, you want the absolute best for them. How would you speak to them? Would you say you’re an idiot or would you say you’re great? How do those terms feel to you now? One is painful and one is nice. How do you speak to yourself? Positive and negative are actually abstract terms for love and fear. When you say to that person you love “you can do it” you are loving them you are seeing them for what they are really capable of. What happens if you say “you can’t” you are fearful because you believe that they MAY!! Get hurt, or you’re seeing them through your own fears of not being good enough.

Positive and negative are Love and Fear. If you speak with fearful language it’s always pulling away. I’m afraid of that thing over there! Loving language is I’m curious about that thing over there. It is the exact same situation but the different words completely change the reality of the situation.

The language we use changes how we feel and as a result either makes us fearful or loving. What sort of language do you use? Does it tear you down by focusing on what you can’t do, or does it build you up by focusing on what you can do? There is always a positive to every single Achievementsituation. Stop now and think about a negative situation you have in your life, that you want to change, and make this statement to yourself. “I know there are some positive aspects to this!! What have I learned? How have I grown? and how can I take charge of my life to make this situation better” stick at it until you start finding something loving, positive and at that point you will know how to literally manipulate all of your reality, to what you want. You will be a positive (loving) person to yourself? How are you going to start talking to yourself now? Are you going to talk to yourself like you hate or love yourself? Now you know how to be nice to yourself, you were able to put that person in front of you and talk nice to them? So now you know how to build yourself up.

I told you this was the most important post you will ever read. Imagine now you literally know that reality is what you say it is, you have learnt how to love yourself (literally talking nice to yourself) you have learnt that you can change every situation into a positive, so now you are the master of your own universe!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! How is that making you feel now?

What does all that have to do with enthusiasm getting you successful? Now that you are master of your universe do you feel more enthusiastic about life? Do you feel more capable? Essentially I’ve been manipulating your mind this whole post. Sneakily I’ve been proving to you that you can, you can, you can, you can do it! How does that feel? How is hearing “you can” making you feel now? I’m positive that it is making you feel good. Are you feeling good for your future? That is what enthusiasm is, it is feeling good now, for what is coming in your future. Imagine you at Christmas, you wrote your letter to Santa and got excited, you put the decorations on your tree and got excited, you counted down your days and got excited. Essentially you were checking off the things that got you closer to your goal and that got you excited. You loved life…. And that is a really important statement “you loved life” you loved every part of it. So loving life is actually what enthusiasm is. It is love in action. How much energy do you get from loving what you do?

Now the serious bit. Are you doing what you love, because if you are not, you dread (fear) going in to work, you dislike the people, atmosphere, buss, whatever. Either way that fear is pulling you back from what you do not like, and that takes energy. How has this one paragraph hit you? Do you feel more or less energy now than you did a couple of seconds ago?  Can you feel how your language is changing your energy, enthusiasm and life?

More seriousness. How are you to succeed in a job you do not like, if your body is literally fighting against its self? How can you get ahead in that sort of state? To put it simply you can’t. There is someone out there with enthusiasm, for what they are doing, and they are going to sail right by you.

The shit has really hit the fan now!!!!! But remember all that we have learnt. You are the master of your reality you can write it any way you want. How can you start talking nice to yourself now, to make yourself feel more energised and enthusiastic now? How can you start steering your ship to a destination that you want?????????? What questions do you have to ask yourself to get you bouncing out of your seat?happy-baby-turtle-is-happy

This is the exciting stuff now. We are really going to mess things up now. What is success? Money, fame, achievement, remember you can manipulate everything to what you want. Success is what you say it is, because success is a feeling. We have all heard of famous people killing themselves, rich people being unhappy, and met high achievers who were miserable. Success is an emotion. You can feel successful by climbing the stairs, coming up with a great idea, or by fixing something. You feel like a success by the story you tell yourself. How have you succeeded today have you put on your clothes the right way for the millionth time in a row? Success like reality is what we say it is!!! Say this… “I am successful!” what do you not believe it? Then say this “I am successful at something” “I have successfully done something’s today” this is completely true “You are a success”!!!!

They say success breeds success and it does. If you focus on your wins, each day, how will you feel? Better or worse about yourself? I’m sure it’s better… do you want to talk to losers who moan? Not me anyway. So if you’re focused on your wins and you feel better what sort of people would you like to hang around with? I’m pretty sure it’s the same sort of people as you?? And they will want to talk to you also….. This is the law of attraction at work. Success attracts success, you attracts success by focusing on what you want and manipulating reality to what makes you feel good, this makes you enthusiastic for life.

Enthusiasm is loving what you are doing now, so that you can get what you want in the future. Just like saving for a holiday.  It may be hard putting that money away each week, but it makes you feel good now watching it grow for that reward in the future. Being enthusiastic every day for your life literally brings opportunities to you, because you attract people that are like minded and will move you towards the life of your dreams. How do you become enthusiastic every day is by focusing on the positive (using positive (loving) language)(loving yourself) manipulating reality to what you want (which is focusing on your successes) each day by learning from every situation.nothing-is-so-contagious-as-enthusiasm

What is your focus going to be from now on? Every day in every way I’m noticing more and more success? Every day in every way I’m becoming happier and happier? Imagine walking around saying the word success what are you looking for? Your reality will start to change… Look around your room now and say success in your mind over and over and look at what pops out to you. What did you notice? I’m sure you seen something that reminded you of success… but this is the important thing…. While you were saying “success” you automatically delete everything that has nothing to do with it. Your reality is literally changed by what words you’re constantly saying to yourself. Are you saying you’re a winner the world will reflect that you will literally be searching for the things that prove that. This is a huge statement “what you focus on you get more of” if you’re saying the word red over and over you’re going to get red. If you say not poor what are you going to get? You’re going to get poor, poor, poor. What will happen if you say rich (which is what you really want) you will get rich. What you say you get more of. You do not get what you want by focusing on what you do not want you get what you want by saying over and over what you do want. I am becoming happier and happier every day I’m becoming wealthier every day. Just be careful that the words your using make you feel good, enthusiastic and energetic. Don’t get caught with out with statements like I want to be rich because that statement isn’t finished it has a but at the end of it I want to be rich “but I’m not” say I’m working on a new exciting job or I’m saving more and more money I’m becoming wealthier and wealthier. They are progressive statements.Challenge-Accepted-2f2xs0v

I see learning this like skipping a stone on water. You get it, then habit kicks in, and you forget it, but then you get it, then forget it, and get it, and forget it, then eventually your new habit is formed and it sinks in fully. If you read this post often you will get “it” more and more every day and you will get everything your heart desires.

You can literally manipulate reality now, to whatever you want. You are a Jedi of the world around you. So what is the future you’re going to create?

Please leave a comment on your new amazing enthusiastic life I’d love to hear it.

I want more self belief / self esteem.


On day 1. We said the most important thing in life is going for what you want.

Day 2. What is my purpose?

Day 3. Becoming happy.

Day 4. Money Money Money monaaaay monaaay.

And now day five.

As we discovered in day 4 our self belief governs everything in our lives, our self image, our health, our job, our wealth, our fun, our purpose.This originally started off as a single post

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, then 3 and now 5 and has taken me a week to write, an enjoyable week at that.

Here is the biggest most powerful tip in the world ever ever ever, because this is the gateway to everything in your life. YOU CAN CHANGE ANY BELIEF!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! You can change yourself image you can change the belief, I am no good, I’m stupid or I’m not good enough, you can change any belief and view yourself any way you want!

We have all met what we would call ugly or stupid people, who love themselves and are doing great. Maybe it’s a boss or a fat guy with a model girl friend and we say to our selves, what does he have that I don’t? It’s simple they just believe in themselves, they believe they are good enough to be in the position they are in. They probably look at you like you’re a nut for not going for what you can achieve.

The negative self image you may have, in your head, is your choice to hold on to, you can choose to change it and it’s really easy to change.

It has taken me years and years to actually realise this, our self image is just something we believe, like a wrong fact, we believe it until we decide to look for the evidence to then contrary.

How many times have you had debates with friends about a fact and defended it until your blue in the face then went to Google and found out they were right your belief around that fact instantly changed the second you got enough evidence.

How many complements have you gotten where as soon as they say something nice you instantly say they must be exaggerating, they just feel sorry for me because they know I’m not good enough, they must be mad or just basically put yourself down.

Have you seen other people do this to themselves?

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Next time say thank you and actually think about it for a second. They must mean it otherwise why would they waste their energy. Maybe you’re doing a better job than you thought?

Think about it where else should you feel good about yourself?

This action is our self image governing its self, that is governed by our beliefs and a feeling of lack (not good enough)

But we can change all of this negative self talk.

Bit by bit day by day you just start to focus on what you are good at and what you like. Imagine that you have something that partially blinds you a lens over your eyes so that you can only see what it allows you to see. That is how yourself belief works. It works in the background constantly blinding you to how great you can be. But it is only a rusty lens that has, over time, been stuck in the wrong position. So now you have to go and work on it manually (consciously) by writing down a list of at least 20 items, you are good at, so you can oil the lens and get it moving again and see the full picture. (It has to be 20 because it’s hard and gets your brain to strain)

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I was so convinced, I was no good at anything, and I could not come up with any ideas. My belief was, I am no good at ANYTHING, so my brain stopped looking after it hit that belief, it had no reason to it was fact, or so I thought. I believed that so strongly that I was completely blind to anything good about myself. I really had to work on it. Eventually I realised I’m good at lots of stuff but I had to start with really small things like dressing myself. I’ve been doing that OK for years?

Those few questions opened up a completely new world to me. I have a complete 180 degree turn now.

Imagine this: you woke up at your usual time in the morning and decided rather than going through your day moaning about how tired you are and how you want to stay in bed. They may be facts but essentially you can’t do anything about them, you have to go to work. So let’s look at it a different way now. Let’s start to look at all our achievements that we don’t appreciate any more. I’m going to be a bit pedantic, just to show you fully how much we can start to appreciate our selves. When did you learn to dress yourself, when you’re five? You have been doing that and feeding yourself for quite some time, you have learned to brush your teeth, drive your car pass school, maybe even college, maybe even climbed a mountain or rode a bike.

How many times a day do you play those successes over and over in your head?

How do you feel now that you have read some of those things and started thinking about all the stuff you have accomplished? Do you feel a bit better than you did before? Why do you feel better? Is it because for a minute you stopped berating yourself for all the things you did wrong today and focused on what you are doing well.

Imagine if you did that every day? How good would you feel, would you have a different opinion about yourself? I’m sure you would and it would be 100% true.

Everybody spends too much time focusing on what they did wrong and too easily forgets what they did right.

What we focus on we get more of, the more we focus on what we did right, the happier and more belief we will develop in ourselves and by proxy make more money because we will be happy and doing what we do to the best of our abilities.

Do you think the people at the top focus on the mistakes they made or do they build on the successes they have?

To summarize: money is a tool but that tool represents our belief in ourselves and that belief can be changed by focusing on what we are good at and the more we focus on our successes the more of them we get. So bit by bit day by day, all you have to do is practice and you will get all your desires.

But what happens when you’re going for your desires and focusing on what your good at? Does life seem a little brighter does it become more bearable, would you be enjoying life because you know good stuff is happening? I think so! If you’re happy, are you a better person to be around, I’m pretty sure you are, so as a result you’re making the world happy by proxy. As they say enthusiasm is infectious so is happiness.

If you have read all five posts I’m sure you have come full circle now and probably know what you want. You probably want to work on yourself belief, but what is the best way of doing this?Achievement

Actually the best way of doing this is going for what you really want. You want the cars, houses, holidays, fun, love and most importantly of all to help people. You just want to get your beliefs sorted so you can get down to the business of what you really want. But by going for what you really want, the beliefs that are directly in the way of you achieving your goals come up.

You might say I want a car, then instantly you get a, yea but, I don’t have any money, that is the most direct belief that has held you back. At that point you get to work on yourself and ask the questions how have I made money in the past? Could I make more money and have fun doing it? Could I get a raise in work? Then getting a raise becomes your new goal. I get a raise then I get my car. Then as soon as you decide that you get another belief in the way, but I’m not good enough to get a raise. Now we apply our awareness to that belief and we ask ourselves how can I get good enough? Am I good enough already and just don’t know it? Could I ask someone what to do? And so on. What if you just decided to turn up to work with a more positive upbeat attitude? How good will you feel? Can you see how by moving forward we automatically become better people, it is that drive forward that breaks down all the negative walls that stop us. so many people spend year in therapy looking for problems in their past but are never moving forward so they go over and over their problems never getting anywhere.

The most important thing is to take action and deal with each block as they come up not to go looking for them.
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So by working on your goals you get to work on your beliefs and bit by bit your awareness grows and you start building yourself belief in the most effective way.

all it is practice, we have all practised the negative way long enough, now it’s time to practice the way that works for you and everyone else.

I hope you feel more in control and want to take on the world.

it would be great to hear your thoughts and also if you read all five days.

Thank you.

I want more money

As we said in the previous posts it is our purpose to go for what makes us happy and what makes us happy is going for what we want.

Dollars funnel.

We looked at how to start defining what you want.

BUT!!! Most people are blinded by one thing, MONEY!!!

We all want more money, but why do we want it? it’s just a piece of paper… right?

Actually people never want more money; they want the security it brings, the things it brings, or the freedom it represents. I definitely want money for these reasons.

However money in and of its self does not bring happiness. So many people think it does. But it’s what you do with money that is the real fun, going on jet skis, meeting up with friends, going to clubs and buying new cars.

But what we do for money often isn’t as much fun. So if we look at our experiences working for money rarely gets us what we really want and to be honest working harder at what we are doing isn’t really attractive enough to warrant the extra money it will bring. So we get caught in this trap of wanting money and not wanting to do our job (Just Over Broke)

I’m sure you have had this thought, I have many times, when I get a bit more money, I will have the money to think about what I want. Can you see how you will never get what you want by thinking this? On one hand your trapped by not wanting to work more because you do not enjoy your job and on the other hand you are not allowing your self to think about fun stuff because you have no money. Loose loose.

What can we do differently?

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First and foremost we have to stop looking at money as the thing we want, it blinds us to what we really want.

When you decide what you want, like a car, a house or more holidays, money then follows automatically. Its mad but I’ll prove it.

By wanting a house you may notice an opportunity to win one or build one or some opportunity that I cannot even imagine, but you start seeing opportunities.

The money follows automatically because you have set a target a reason to work harder or think differently, you start to generate ideas, it gets your imagination fired up and as a result your enthusiasm grows, you start to have a reason to work, it makes your job a bit more enjoyable. It’s mad but it’s true. I’m sure you have done this many a time, when you decided to go on holidays. oh I need a bit more spending money? I definitely have.

So the desire for the thing automatically creates more money in your life, because you are more enthusiastic about life.

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What if you decided to think outside the box and ask a different question altogether. What if you wanted a job that was fun? That also made you money? What if you decided, I want a job that was fun that was rewarding, would you automatically turn up on time and be a great employee, would you get a raise for being such a good employee?

Money is just a tool to get what you want. Money follows what you want to do in life; it follows your enthusiasm, never ever the other way around.

Try it now ask yourself some questions and brain storm ideas. What sorts of jobs are there out there that are fun? What do I enjoy already? The more of these sorts of questions we ask the better the answers we will get.

There are people making lots of money doing crazy stuff, from wood work to selling stuff for amazon.com, to life coaches and playing guitar. You can make lots of money doing anything. I know people who love ironing and make extra cash ironing. (nut-cases) I’d sooner coach someone, but we are all different.

So How much fun and enthusiasm do you want in your life?   having-fun-25 

Look at this cop.

These are the facts about money it is only a tool, like a hammer. You use a hammer to hammer in nails when you’re building a house, you use money to pay someone to hammer in those same nails if you don’t have those skills. It is neither good or bad it is just a tool. You can use it to kill someone, just like a hammer, or you can use it to build a shelter, to save some one.

This is the human bit though. We tie money to survival, because we do need it to live. But this is where money starts getting tied to our beliefs. Money represents how we value our selves. We have all been in a situation in work where we say I’m worth more than this boring job, paying me next to nothing, for all the work I’m doing. But then we say, I’m no good at anything else, so I won’t get money, or a good paying job elsewhere. Generally this sort of statement is made because people don’t believe in themselves, which is a representation of their self worth. Basically I’m not good enough. So the less you are paid the less you value your self (as long as you are not enjoying your job, if you do enjoy it your getting paid in enjoyment)

Tomorrow how to build self belief and self worth.

Passion eh what?

I had always heard Steve Jobs and Richard Branson say these words “just follow your passion”. I just couldn’t relate, I hadn’t got a clue what my passion was, I don’t have a clue what I’m going to do with my life. I would love to change the world but how? If i don’t understand my passion or my purpose?

I was thinking last week that skateboarders and surfers have there passion, that race car drivers have there passion. They are not so different to me. They are just people. Then I figured it out, there word for passion is fun. They just do what is fun, Steve Jobs just loved what he was doing Richard Branson just loves what he is doing. These guys are having fun every day. They have fun with what they are doing. There passion is just having fun each day.

I figured out how to find my passion and hopefully as a result what my purpose is. If I just focus on what I enjoy as long as it’s good for my health wealth the people around me and of course the environment, I will be leading a passionate purposeful life.

The lesson for me is to identify what is most fun in my life and work towards that, then I can identify what is most fun out of that and work towards that and so on and so on. I don’t need to know what my passion is to change the world, I don’t need to know my purpose, I just have to follow what is most fun to me and do it to the best of my abilities. This in turn will lead me down a road that when I look back I will be able to see what my passion and purpose is.

As all the greats say. I didn’t know I was going to end up here, I couldn’t have dreamt up the life I have led, I just followed my passion and look what happened.

So my question to you is how are you going to have fun today.

I am going to start enjoying all our project work and seeing how much fun I can have each day and who knows where it will lead. I sure don’t know where that will lead and I think that is going to be half of the fun.

This post is one of my first steps on a road to a destination that I have no idea where it will lead. So please excuse the bad grammar and not so fluid writing style but this is one of my first steps on a road to a lot more fun.