Winning and losing in the stock market.

 

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I feel there is a misconception in the investing world that there are winners and losers, but this goes further than just investing it goes into life!

If some one is winning some one is losing, but I just can’t see that.

If I buy one stock off one person, who is happy to sell it to me and I sel

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l it to someone else who is happy to buy it off me, I am being of service, I am not winning or losing. I am just making decisions that work for me.

I am not responsible for other people and their decisions, if they are not happy with it after they buy it off me, that is their decision, but again I haven’t competed with any one, it is a free market. They could of bought it off millions of other people, at millions of other times. So, at that very moment he was happy I am not pulling one over on any one. If some one buys great if not I’m left with my decisions.

Do people lose in the stock market yes 100% they do, but am I in their race? No not at all!!! I am in my own race!!

To explain this further. If I was to come second or even come last in a race with Usain Bolt would I be a winner or loser. Well to me I’d be winning I’d be just happy to get that experience. So, in my world I would be a winner! Or in other words happy!

So, who are we competing with? actually no one. We create a story in our mind that there is a competition because people win and lose in their race, but we are not in their race.

So, what is the competition? or is there one at all? Well I want to improve every day that is the only challenge I have. So, I am only really racing against myself.

So, what does these concepts of winning and losing do for us? what would happen if we dropped the idea of competition altogether and started looking at what is really there. Let’s drop the lenses of winning and losing.

If I make a trade and it does not do what I want it to do, have I lost? Am I a loser? I know if I learn a valuable lesson I become wiser and I’m more able to make better decisions the next time. Do i like it? no, but i am not a loser!

So, do I win by learning? or do I win by my trades making me money? I don’t win anything either way there is nothing to win there are only lessons.

Now what does the stock market look like to you?

The way I look at things now is, how can I grow? Winning comes from insecurity wanting to be better than someone and losing is the same. But who cares? no one else does.

My goal is to become more and more effective. I know if I constantly aim to be more effective I’ll be looking at the market for what it is! an opportunity to grow, mentally, emotionally and financially. If it goes up I win, if it goes down I win, I’m always winning, because my goal has nothing to do with any one else and is focused on what is going to get me the results I want in the long term.

Pain and pleasure are real, winning and losing are not. Yes, I feel pain when I don’t have a great trad but how I make that feel better is by learning. But if I believe in winning and losing trades, I’ll feel like a loser and not learn, that will only go into developing some sort of self-image as a trader.

 

So, by setting our focus on what is effective, we see the world through a completely different lenses, one that works and empowers us!

Where else in life is this relevant to you?

Re-evaluating my goals.

My plan to speak at pendulum summit got derailed, for the past few months.

I set an audacious goal, and didn’t really know what I was getting myself in for.

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Just like all goals, plan A didn’t work also plan b, c,d, and e. But now finally after trailing and fail-learning and a bit of de-motivation, I am getting the picture back of what I wanted 9 months ago.

I can see myself speaking on stage and the energy in the place being off the charts. I know the type of energy I want, because I’ve was a DJ, and I know when a place is electric. 3 or 4 thousand people, with a real drive, to be the best that they can be. Just even saying this pumps me up.

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I got derailed like every one, my goal was going to take a lot more effort than I thought. But that is the mark of a real goal. Something that will grow you. I had all the pieces but had no idea how long and how to put them together.

My naive assumption at the start of the year was, I’d put out a bunch of videos and get traction, and that was it. Haha. So funny now. Totally delusional. But again that is the mark of a true goal.

So, I’ve melted my own head over, and over, just like every entrepreneur, and it didn’t seem as much fun, as it originally did. It started feeling like it was going to be a lot of hard work.

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My plan originally was to do a bit of online marketing, and get a job with Pendulum Summit doing marketing, network with all the top people, and develop an opportunity that way.

What has come about, is I’ve had to start a media company, to build my own brand, which still doesn’t exist. So I’ve had to do a lot of study, and growing, than originally planned.

I started a meet up group,(The Epic Life Group) because I needed experience as an actual speaker. Yea that’s how delusional, this goal was. I fucking love it. Totally nuts.

Because I got disillusioned by the scale of things, my energy started to go, and I realized, I had a lot less time, than I originally thought. I was aiming to have all my stuff together at the end of the year, and I’d get a place to speak. But thanks to DJ and Journalist, Mark Kavanagh, I realized I had a lot less time. I actually had to get my shit together months in advance, because that is when they would finalize the lineup. Yea as I said I was delusional. Haha

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So through setting up the Meet-up group, that became much more interesting, and of much more value, than speaking at pendulum summit. I was getting in a small way, what I was aiming for in speaking at Pendulum.

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I said to myself, sure if I just build this group to thousands of people, I wont need pendulum.

So I carried on with that vision for a few months and had to think about growing the group, so I started reading lots of books, and marketing stuff, primarily @garyvee and today I realized, that I was struggling with my marketing message.

I realized that I had no direction, for what I was doing, I lost my north star. My vision had evaporated.

I was reading this stuff to grow the group, but to what end. It was vague and mushy.

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Over the past few months, I had felt this vagueness, but I had no idea what it was. I went from being proactive, to just reading stuff that seemed like being productive, but it wasn’t leading anywhere.

I am reminded again, and again, that we have to have a north star, a destination, a goal because, that puts what we are doing, now, in context, and gives what we are doing, now, purpose.

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I was proactively lost.

I can even see it in the epic life group, I had lost that drive to grow, by being vague, and the group, I feel,could feel that too. Every bit of content I was putting out was great, but it lacked that bit of drive, and conviction, that direction. What we are all doing this for. We want epic lives, that is why, we are here, and that energy, was faltering.

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I understand on a whole new level, the purpose of goals, so much more now. Goals are not to be attained, but they are there as tools to help you grow.

The goal itself is irrelevant, the journey is the most important thing. It is who you become as a result of your journey, that is most important. But! the goal gives you direction.

This goal has gone from being something fun, to something much more serious, it is now become a mark of my growth, as a man, a person, as a person who can make a difference, to his own life, and as a result the people around him.

The goal has gone from being a selfish one, to one that I hope will empower others.

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I know now, that I am mad late, on speaking at pendulum, but miracles happen every day.

I am re-energized, and clear again on what I want to do, and why. We all go through these processes. If you are to take one thing away from this, is just keep going, keep moving forward, and things will become clear eventually.

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If  I had have stopped, I would not have a second chance now, and I gave myself that second chance.

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My energy and clarity is back.

I see myself in the Dublin Exhibition Center speaking to 3 thousand people, and bringing them on a journey that empowers the fuck out of them. I see the place going nuts, for themselves, because they will see how far, they have come, through my story.

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If I can be so delusional, and keep going, so can anyone. I can tell you now, I am 100% a better person for all the effort I have put in. Win, loose, or draw I have grown, and that is the real purpose of goals.

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I can not go back to who I was, and one way or another, I am going to have better things because of this.

I look forward to meeting you on our Epic Journey’s

 

Self support the missing ingredient.

Constructive-Criticism Criticism is the most destructive thing that has ever been on this planet, and most of all from our parents. It causes a horrible chain reaction that can last for years, decades and multiple life times. We get criticized, this causes a feeling of not being good enough, then we want to feel better, we then look for approval. Our self-image has been damaged, we are not good enough anymore. Up until this time we were happy with everything we did. Then we learned to evaluate ourselves in a way that will diminish us, maybe for the rest of our lives.Self-Criticism

This has taken me hundreds of courses, a small fortune and thousands of hours of meditation and self evaluation. All roads lead to this, and this is the cause of all of our problems. Be it abuse or just criticism we are searching for something externally to fill this void in us. our low self esteem.

We have the feeling of not being good enough, we try to avoid that feeling, cover it up, or run away from it, it is constant no matter who we see or where we go, it is always with us. Because it happened so long ago, we can barely see, that it is this feeling that is causing soo much trouble in our lives. We are at its mercy.

We try to over achieve to counter act that feeling, maybe if I’m the best, richest or most popular maybe I can finally get rid of it. Maybe I’ll eventually be good enough maybe eventually I will be lovable? but we still manage to find that one thing that was not perfect, and no matter what achievements we have, they will never be good enough. We will never be good enough.

I can see how all addictions stem from avoiding this feeling, that will never cease or go away. I can see why guys and girls end up with the wrong people, hopelessly entangled in a hope to fill this void.

We are a global leader in developing innovative software, websites and marketing solutions for businesses. (1)What I learned about myself is that I was looking to fill this void, even after all the work I had put in. Deep down I was looking for support and approval from my parents. I didn’t get it as a child they had the best of intentions, but delivered it the way they were taught.

I’ve had a drive to be a better person, but it was coming from the wrong place. It was coming from a place of pain not joy.

I realized that this has had such huge impact on my life. Probably the most influential thing in my life.

I have heard so much about learning to love yourself. But what is that? Its vague at best and non-sense to most people. The vast majority of people do not know what love is and I certainly didn’t, to be honest I’m still not sure.

However, I do know what support is, I do know what being nice is, and I do know what seeing the best in others is. I know because I’ve been doing this for years for everyone else but myself.

Maybe I was subconsciously hoping that they would do it for me. But this could never happen my defenses where on such high alert, that even if they did give me a complement, I couldn’t hear or feel it. I had to solve this problem myself.

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What changed and over a few days is I started noticing how I had a lot of resistance to letting people know what I was up to, my latest plans, or just life in general, I wouldn’t share who I was, for fear of criticism, fear of being hurt. If no one knows how can they hurt me?

What I learned was I have to support myself, I have to be the one who pats myself on the back, and how I do that is by facing my feelings. Instead of running away I will listen to them and hear what they have to say. Ultimately they are there for a reason, and that reason is always for my highest good. They want me to stay safe, be happy ultimately they are looking out for me. They do not want me to feel pain. I don’t want me to feel pain.

freedom-is-lta-hrefquothttpearnscliffecoukhowwecanhelpreplicabagsukphpquotgtreplica-designer-handbag-13921121268n4kgWhat happened over the coming days, I paid attention to what is going on inside me, and finally listened to what my emotions where saying by listening I was able to turn around that approval mechanism, from being externally driven, to being internally driven. Essentially supporting myself.

I’ve tried this a number of times before by writing down what did over the course of a day but it was always avoiding the feeling rather than sitting with it and learning from it. I was trying to over ride it instead of listening to it.

I now have to create a new dialogue with myself feel my emotions, listen and build myself in the right way. Listening and feeling what is going on inside you is the quickest and easiest way of moving forward in life.

fresh-airYou have an opportunity right now to take a huge step forward in life. Where have you been looking for approval where have you been looking for support and at the same time ignoring yourself looking for something that you will never get externally? You have an opportunity to fill yourself with approval, support, and ultimately love yourself more.

My Chronic Fatigue Story

Chronic-FatigueOver the past 10 years I’ve struggled with chronic fatigue and Fibromyalgia I have
tried every treatment and therapy known to man, but no success. That’s I because I was looking in the wrong place for the solution to my issue.

This crept up on me gradually, bit by bit, I had to go back to bed, more and more each day. First I went to the doctor, and that was of no use. Then I went to Nutritionists, Dietitians, Naturopaths, Ayurveda, you name it i did it. I started doing course after course, and I kept getting worse and worse. At the height of it I could barely work, I was completely dependent, on my parents, to survive. I was only functional for a few hours a day.

bernarr-macfadden-fighting-disease-with-vitalityI have noticed a pattern with clients. We are very alike, different races, creeds and body types, but we have one key trait that shines through it all. We all have ambition, but unfortunately we are hindered by our energy levels. We get frustrated, stressed, and this just compounds the whole matter. We are driven, but that drive is actually what Is causing the problem.

As I have worked through my own stuff I’ve gone to 100’s of experts in lots of different fields searching for the solution. I was always looking externally to myself what chemical what imbalance what cure can I get for this.

fibromyalgia-1What I have found is that Chronic Fatigue is the result, but not the cause. It is the result of a whole chain of things. If your look at the result, not the cause you will never find a solution, because your looking completely in the wrong place.

Let me explain this in a slightly abstract way. Imagine one million years ago when we were walking around the jungle and a big animal jumps out to attack us, we go sprinting as fast as we can, this is the fight or flight response, or stress. Our bodies are really smart and because we need all our energy and physical resources to go to our muscles, our body shuts down non essential parts of our bodies, like our digestive system, when stressed. The person gets away and then relaxes and his body returns to normal.

hqdefaultThere are no dangers like that in our lives, but we still have the same system operating in the background. Our body doesn’t know the difference between an animal and work stress or the stress of having to pay bills. where do people get butterflies when they are about to get up on stage?

The problem is we are in a constant state of stress every day. Stress going to work, stress in work, stress coming home and stress on the news. We are in a constant state of stress so our bodies do not normalize anymore.

If our digestive system is constantly not fully engaged then we have food that sits in our digestive system, and causes irritation, then we develop food intolerance’s. Because it is not fully turned on, we don’t absorb the right nutrients. We are in a heightened state of alertness, so we are burning more and more vitamins, at the exact time we are not absorbing them! We are running our engines with little or no oil, to keep it in peak performance. On top or all that because we are tired we tend to want more calorie rich food like chocolate sugar and carbs, but these again are not going to replace what we need. On top of that again we drink caffeine which literally turns on our stress hormones (adrenaline) to boost our energy which adds more pressure on a completely exhausted system.

Do you see where this is going? So we are running on empty, not just empty but on a deficit. We are running ourselves into the ground.

But all of that stress started in our perceptions of what was going on! It all started in our decisions about what is going on in our world. Everything chases back to our thoughts, options, and decisions. They either stress us out or not!

This is why my blog is called Health Starts In The Mind because everything in our lives starts in our mind. Our thoughts create our reality.

FibromyalgiaThis had a cascade effect in my body as I got more stressed, I thought more how to fix it, as I through more how to fix it, I got more stressed. Bit by bit my body started to shut down and the external effects of my thought patterns started to show up. I was getting more tired and sleeping more, but not getting a proper rest, then because of inactivity, my legs and back started to ache. So I started to look at what was making me tired and sore. But that was the wrong place. I had to take control of my thoughts.

HealthSo what changed? I got pissed off really pissed off I realized that I’d have to figure this out myself.  Bit by bit I worked through my food intolerance’s and worked on upping my nutrition by eating better foods. But I would only get so far, I’d improve then my stress levels would catch up with my health, and I’d start going downhill again. Then I really started to change how I perceived the world. I started to really delve into how my mind worked. I started to learn how reality worked and started to change that for the better. HealthyThe more I worked on my thoughts the more I de-stressed the more I de-stressed the more energy I had. I learnt how to focus on what I wanted not what I didn’t want. I wanted to be full of energy and enthusiasm. Reading about sickness only made me stressed, and as a result sick.

I’ve noticed over and over that people who have chronic fatigue, fibromyalgia ME and depression, are all smart people with ambition. Any of the ones that heal all have a moment where they say no more! They call it rock bottom, where they decide what they are doing isn’t working, and it’s time to do something else. To start thinking differently!

Today I’m one of the healthiest people you will meet. I do get tired but that is because I do too much. but I regulate it way better now and i work with my body. I don’t stress about it i just do what is right for me and move on. Nice and easy.

Let me ask you what do you want? Do you want to be “not sick” or full of “Vitality and H



ealth”? I know what I want. So what are you going to change today?

A Little more about me.

I’ve been farting about with this blog for years now, and it’s time to make something of it.getting nowhere

I’m not a writer, and I’m not an internet marketer, hence being so slow at posting and promoting my blog.

I asked myself one simple question. What one skill could I develop that would give me the greatest impact on this planet, and you guessed it Blogging was the answer. Ah shit.

I’ve had a mad life, to put it mildly. Mad in a bad way, and the awesome way. Now it’s time for me to put what I’ve learned into practice, and start living the life of my dreams.

But like everyone on this planet I’ve got some challenges, and this is what I want to share with you. I’ve read all the books and gone to all the seminars but still there is something holding me back.

i was diagnosed with ADHD when I was 26 (ADHD does not exist, poor focus does) so that puts into perspective how good i was at school, i failed everything and school failed me. I had Little or no self-belief, no self-worth, and most of all no skills to start figuring my way out of this.

held_back_by_h_nguyenSo over the past 10 years I’ve studdied and learned, about how the mind works, but still something was still holding me back. No matter how hard I tried, I could not move forward with my life. I could learn, but not take action on what was going to move me forward. I was stuck!

Through years of pushing ahead and getting nowhere, I started to get sick, I was Chronic fatigueburning out, so much so, I was laid up in bed for nearly two years, with chronic fatigue and was most definitely depressed as a result.

All that started me looking further and further afield into more alternative solutions to my issues. i started to ask better questions. i went from asking why was i sick to how can i improve.

living an epic lifeThis is where my life started to pull back together. Once you realize that everything is energy, your thoughts, your words, your electrical impulses that make you move, your brain waves, then you can really start healing and improving.

i started to realize that there are many levels to personal development, but two main ones. Your mind set and the energy in your environment, (internally and externally).

You can be the most positive person in the world, but if you’re around a bunch of depressed people, they will drag you down. Maybe not a lot, but one way or another your environment dictates, the majority of what your life is going to be like.

As I got more and more into the energy side of personal development, the more I was able to take action on what was actually holding me back. I realized that certain things have pulls on your mentality. A simple example would be the Social Welfare, because they give you 200 euro for nothing, it makes it hard to do a job for 300 Breaking limitationseuro, because you will have to work 40 hours for only a 100 euro increase. Also because you only have 200 euro it is very hard to dream about what you want next, because your limited by how much you can invest in your life. A cheap course at 50 euro is a huge chunk of your money. Where as someone who is on 500 euro a week its only 10% of your weekly wages. So being on the dole limits your mentality and as a result your energy and then you get depressed. You have to change your whole environment to start to feel good again. It is a real uphill struggle. but once you can see the energies in your life that are holding you back then you can take charge and do something about it.

As you can see our personal growth can be hindered by not only ourselves, but the environment we live in. This is a much broader spectrum than most of us realize.

What I’ve been doing for myself over the past 10 years is learning all this stuff and bit by bit putting it into practice. I’ve broken most of the things that have been holding me back and now its all about living an epic life.

The life I want to live is one of endless enthusiasm. I realize that I will have my ups Bungee jumpand downs, but through it all I’ll be excited for the coming day.

So this blog will be about what I have learned, what I have done to change that, and what I’m doing to start living the life of my dreams.

The next post will be on how to build your vision.

 

The way the world works. Love yourself and your life.

success-perception-vs-realityOur perceptions rule the roost. But our perceptions are very flexible. There is no good or bad, just what is. One person in a car crash will say “it was the best thing that ever happened me, because it made me realize that life is short”, and you already know what the other person will say.

If you imagine a chair, what makes it a chair? What defines it as a chair? Is it the shape or what it’s made out of? If I asked you what it was? You could answer, it is wood or whatever it’s made out of, and you would 100% right, Or atoms or energy. But all these are just words that depict a story. The word chair creates a story which is “something you sit on” but what is it really. What if some art student has it in their house, it’s painted a different colour to all the rest of the chairs in the house, it has a lamp on it, and it’s beside their bed. What would it be then? What if they walked over and took the lamp off and sat down. The story of the chair would change from bedside table to chair to what ever next. So the story is completely flexible.

In reality that chair is not just a chair. It can be something to stand on, or to put things on. Its uses are infinite, but because of the word chair it becomes limited, the story constrains our imagination. What is a chair to a baby? Well up until its big enough, it’s something to hold on to so it can walk.

I now see everything in two layers one is what vocabulary-chair-coloring-page-printablethe chair really is (pure energy and imagination) and the other is the story we bestow on it. They are two completely separate things. One is in our heads and the other is out there in reality.

Imagine if we put a pen in a baby’s face, what that is to the baby? It does not know that it is a pen, it sees that pen and when we take it away that pen ceases to exist, it vanishes, because there is no word pen in the babies head no understanding. Then through conditioning us repeating the word pen over and over then the baby realizes that that shape is called a pen, it then keeps a picture of the pen in its mind and it starts to exist there, then the story grows as the baby grows, I can make marks with the pen, then the story grows again, there are two types of pens, pens and pencils. This is all inside the mind of the child if that story didn’t exist in the child’s mind, they would never know what that was, it would cease to exist in their reality.

abracadabra_by_mandapandar-d6hp85jWords crate our reality. Why is a chair a chair? Because we say it is, no other reason. So what does that mean for your reality? Can you rewrite it? What does that mean for you? are you your name? Are you your story? would different people have different perspectives (stories) on your life

AbracadabraIf words create your reality, what does that mean for language? Does your language create your reality? We have a part of our brain called the amygdala that filters reality for us based on our experiences and thoughts. What does that mean though, how is that practical?  I prefer to make this way simpler our amygdala filters reality based on our words.

No RedGreat coloursLet’s run an experiment. Say out loud a colour you don’t want to see, lets pick red, so say out loud, over and over, no red, no red, no red, what do you see? Of course you see red, when you were talking about what you didn’t want, did you see what you wanted? What would happen if you started saying a colour you did want what would happen?

Our words are like lenses if you say cat your amygdala filters reality for cats, and so on, but if you talk about what you do not want your filtering reality for that also.

So you get more of what you talk about!! That is huge, what do you talk mostly about?

Positive and negativePositive and negative language. Imagine saying “I must be more positive” “I must be more positive” “I must be more positive”! How does that statement feel to you? Does it feel positive or does it feel like your beating yourself over the head. The intention is positive, but the execution is not. How many times have we all had good intentions that have backfired on us? What is that person really saying when they are saying I must be more positive? What they are really saying is “I’m not positive” “I’m not positive”, “I’m not doing it right”, “I’m not good enough”. They are beating themselves up with words. How many times a day do we all do this?

i-think-i-like-who-i-am-becomingHow does this feel? I’m becoming more and more positive every day. It feels so much nicer and truer, because we are all learning and growing each day. That word, “must”, created a whole different feeling.

I’ve shifted from saying positive and negative because the terms are too abstract the real meaning of positive and negative is love and fear. If you Love-Greater-Than-Fear-mailer-frontlook at the term “must” Is a fear word it is imposed upon you by your teacher, boss, or torturer! You must do this or you will be punished, it diminishes your self-esteem, because it is imposed upon you, and you are not seen as equal.

i_like_who_i'm_becoming-771632 Whereas if you say the word “becoming” is an internal word a word that has growth to it, it sees you as completely capable, to be whatever you want. I am becoming an astronaut (I want to), rather than I must be an astronaut (I have to). So when we use the word becoming, we are building our self-esteem because we are in charge of our destiny. Becoming is a love word it is loving yourself.

There are many other fear based words should must have to don’t can’t and many other love based words. The remarkable thing is that all the fear based words are not true and diminish self-esteem whereas all love based words are true and build self-esteem.

Fear is the number one negative term but does it exist? If we look at the chair example again, when we use the word chair, that story limits our imagination, and gives us the impression that it is a solid and permanent thing. But in reality it is a constantly changing thing that is degrading and changing its use all the time. It is completely flexible. But the word and associated story is not flexible. It is a chair and it is for sitting on! End of story! The word fear gives us the same feeling that it is sold and exists. but can you point to fear can you touch it?

If fear is not real how come we feel it? If you go to the cinema to see a scary movie do you get scared? Why is that? We have an imagination and we can imagine ourselves in many different situations, but because our imagination is soo good we can also scare the pants off ourselves.

Worry-fearFear is a misuse of the imagination. It is an emotional response to an imaginary situation. a projection of ourselves in the future. So it is not real now.

Did you notice how the two terms felt? Fear, and emotional response to an imaginary situation. The word fear feels much more solid and real, like its immovable and it actually stops the flow of your imagination. I’ve got a fear. yes you do, boom done you’re screwed. Whereas if you use the term emotional response to an imaginary situation, it feels so much more flexible, it actually gives you the answer to the situation. Imagine something else. the more effective language allows your energy (emotions and imagination) to flow.

fear-is-not-real-its-a-product-of-thought-we-create-but-doI’m sure your head is starting to spin now, and your starting to ask about danger. Fear is imaginary, danger isn’t. But we have to look at this in an abstract way. If you are standing on the side of a busy road waiting to cross are you in danger? Sure you are but if you’ve done it enough you trust the situation will turn out ok. So you actually don’t think about it at all, and just deal with what is presented to you. So you’re in danger but not in fear. Could a hypnotist make you fearful in that situation would you be in any more danger?

If you imagine the same situation, but now with a 3 year old kid, who is a bit unpredictable, what do you do? You fear that the kid may run out so you take charge of the situation and hold the kids hand.

Lack-of-faith-quote-muhammad-aliI used two very important words there. Fear and trust / faith. When we feared that the kid “could” (imaginary) we did not trust him, but we trusted ourselves, when we took charge of the situation, by holding the kids hand. So what is fear really? Fear is really is lack of self-trust / belief.

This is huge! Imagine the sneaky word Fear had us looking at this external solid feeling thing. It had us looking in the wrong direction all the time. Now that we know its self-trust / belief what difference does that make?

What would happen if you focused on all the successes in your life? Even as little as crossing the road. Would you start to feel better about yourself? What would happen if you started to imagine, things going well for you, or even great, what would happen? would you be loving yourself then?

So many people struggle with loving themselves! Why is that? Would it be as simple as the language we use?

What would happen if we actually started speaking the truth about ourselves?

What do you mean the truth?

self-esteemIf you use fear based language it’s always in the future, don’t spill the water, I can’t do that, it always sees you or the other person as not capable. I expect you to spill the water so don’t, I expect I am not able to do that.

What would happen if we said the same things but using loving language? Put the glass on the table. It sees you as capable of getting the water to the table, make sure you get the water in your mouth. Or I can do that, but I really do not want to put the effort in. Each time you see yourself and the other person as completely capable of doing what ever, and it is 100% true.

The really mad thing is all negative fear based language, can be instantly negated. If someone says, I can’t go to the moon. You can instantly say if you had enough money you could. I can’t run a marathon, I’ve no legs! Do it in a wheel chair, invent some legs.

All positive loving statements are 100% true and can’t be argued with. I can run a marathon, but I couldn’t be arsed. I can get to the moon but it’s something that doesn’t interest me at this time. each time your telling the truth and not putting yourself down.

I love myselfSo how do you love yourself? Start talking about what you want, what you can do, and all the successes in your life. Even if it is just tying your shoe. you will be telling the truth.

If you talk about what you want, and what you can do? What will you notice more of in your life. Will your energy and enthusiasm improve? If you keep at that for long enough for it to be come your way of being, how will your life change.

From now on your either talking about what you don’t want, or what you do want, it is your choice! you can either love yourself by saying, i can, or i cant either way your literally creating your reality because your reality is the words you use.

 

Setting Goals The Right Way!

What you want is who you want to become.

But it’s very important you set this up right.

Too many people set goals for themselves that actually work against them. I want to be Being rich is a state of mind.rich by September 11th 2015. This goals is driven by pain. I don’t have enough money now, so I want to be rich. You can almost feel the reaction, it’s like a pull back from a hot stove. It is vague, even if this person made a million, what is rich? What people want is feelings I want to be happy, that is what this person is really saying. Which is driven by, I’m not happy, I have too many bills to pay.

When we start to listen to our words, and listen to the deeper meanings of them, we start to see how we have been working against ourselves. Do you think that this person who wants to be rich is motivating himself by saying I want to be rich, I want to be rich, I want to be rich? Or is he beating himself up by saying I’m poor, I’m poor, I’m poor. Can you see this pattern in people you know?

What about people who want to be successful?

Or Skinny

Or lose weight

What are these people really saying to themselves?

The funniest of them all is “I have to be more positive”, “I have to be more positive”. What is this really saying? does it feel good, does it feel positive?

How many people do you know who are tortured by what they are saying to themselves? Are you one of these people?Torturing yourself

Let’s break the cycle of pain. Let’s go from being reactive to proactive.

What can you do now, to improve your wealth?

What can you do now, to improve your health?

What can you do now, to improve your fitness?

What can you do now, to improve your attitude?

How do these statements make you feel? Do you feel empowered? Why is that? Is it because these questions assume you can do something?

Can you feel the difference in how the language makes you feel?

What would happen if you only focused on what you can improve? Would you make more progress easily? Would it be more rewarding? Would you feel better about yourself? would you be working with yourself instead of against?

Let’s set an effective health goal.

The old way would have been. I want to lose weight by September 30th… so I have to starve myself until then. Does this feel nice? does this motivate you? Or are you like me and feeling tightness in your chest at the thoughts of it.

Now the effective way.

What do you really want in life? Do you want to be skinny? So people will accept you so that you will like yourself? Will people like you if your sick miserable and unhealthy? Will you like yourself, if you are sick miserable and unhealthy? But your skinny right? 😉Skinny and unhealthy

Or do you want to be the best you, you can be? Full of energy enthusiasm, vitality and light. That loves life, themselves, and everyone around them, because they feel so good every day?

Which sounds better to you?

What can you do now to move towards that goal? I hope you’re not saying stop eating shit food? Does that feel good to you? No? Does it feel like your criticizing yourself? Well then it’s not supporting you. What would happen if you said I can eat more veg today? How does that statement feel to you? Is it better? is it focused on what will actually make you healthy?

What would happen if you completely ignored the negative stuff and just started eating Great foodgreat food and exercising? What would happen if you just started being nice to yourself and supporting yourself?

Do you want to become a person who loves them self fully and feels amazing all the time.

I think that is a pretty awesome goal.

Can you start moving towards that now?

 

 

 

 

 

Health starts in the mind.

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Healthy BrainThe Health starts in the mind model, is the complete model of health? It is a process not a band-aid. We do not focus on getting healthy for a specific date, we focus one developing a LIFE full of vitality and enthusiasm.

Like everything in life, you have to think about it, before you get it. Health is no different. You have to think about what you want for yourself, and how you want to feel, so you can then put in place the steps, to get it.

To many people have no direction in life, and are just bouncing from one pain to another, I have to pay my bills, so I have to get a job, I hate my job because it’s not what I like,  I decided to do it because I had to pay bills. So to get out of that pain loop people take drugs like sugar, sugar-needlechocolate, caffeine, and alcohol. which rob even more energy from your life. So then they end up doing the bare minimum, to get by. Which is just existing. Who would want to put effort into that sort of life?

We want to get people focused on having Fucking Awesome lives. Lives where each day has meaning and a purpose. When you have meaning and purpose you want to make that happen more and more. You quickly realise you want more energy, to work better, and do better.

However most people are focused on the wrong things. They want to be skinny, they don’t have enough money, they have to get up early to go to a job they hate. Pain, pain, pain, demotivate, demotivate, demotivate.

When you are focused on the right things, like having a great life, you create energy. I’m getting healthier and healthier every day. I’m growing my finances every day. I love what I do, so I’m getting up earlier to do it. Energy and enthusiasm starts to flow when you start focusing on the right things. You do not need will power to make them happen because you want to do them.focus

Can you now see how changing your focus creates the direction you want to go. Then gradually day by day, you will start moving towards your ideal life. Rather than focusing on what you don’t have now. Start empowering yourself with what you are doing now, or can do now. Can you think about the life you want to start building now? The way you want to start feeling now? How would thinking about what you’re going to build, make you feel now? Would it motivate you to eat better and do better?

Health starts in the mind. What you focus on grows, if you focus on the wrong thing you will get more of it. If you focus on the right things, you get more of it.

Listen to these two statements, say them out loud, and think about how they make you feel.

  1. I want to be healthy? What is that really saying? Is it building you up or tearing you down? Is it a criticism? Is it actually saying “I’m not healthy”? I have to get healthy because I’m a mess?Socrates
  2. How does this one sound “I’m getting healthier”? It automatically assumes your healthy (you’re not dead I hope?) you have to have some level of health to be able to read this post. So does it build on where you’re at? does that statement value you, and the efforts you have put in before now? Does it see you as completely capable of being a fully vibrant person? Does it build your confidence, energy and enthusiasm? I’m getting healthier is a true statement because your body and you are always working to be better.

So how we talk to ourselves (thoughts) create our reality. Once you set them up right everything flows from there.

How are you going to start thinking (talking) about yourself? Are you going to start building yourself up, or tearing yourself down now?

The switch to turning on the most awesome life ever is in your mind. You have all the power in the world to make whatever awesome life you want to happen, happen.We_Are_Limitless

I hope you are as excited as I am with the limitless possibilities that are out there.

When you think great, you feel great, then you do great

Enjoy.

What is a Habit, is it really hard to break?

As I’ve been developing my course, I’ve used the word habit, a lot, and that got me thinking ???? What is a habit? Quit-Bad-Habits

What I used to believe, is that a habit was a thing that, if you do something enough it becomes automatic and then it’s really hard to break from then on.

I’ve read a few books that claim it takes 21 days and even 69 days to create a habit or to break one.

I’ve come to realise that this is just non-sense we create and break habits all the time every day.changing-habits  new-habits

I’m sure the above two lines sound really familiar to you.

Habits are basically the most efficient way for us to do something, so from a logical stand point you would want to keep doing them, that way.

Imagine you driving home from work every day, you think that is the most efficient route home and you pretty much do it unconsciously. What would happen if someone showed you a route home that was shorter in time? If you try it once and it is shorter it would literally be stupid for you not to drive that way home? As long as getting home quickly was your priority!

That habit got changed instantly because it was of more value for you to drive home quicker.Freedom

What about smoking? That is a tough habit to break, right? it’s got an addiction associated with it. We can quickly see the exact same process as the above statement. Once people define the value of living or enjoying life more, than smoking, they give up there and then, or it may take a few times. But they do it.habit

The reason is, that once we define the value in anything, then we understand that that is the best way to do something, and it’s more efficient to do it that way. We create a new habit.

Habits are easy to change and create, just define the value of what you want, and you will begin to do it automatically.

You can never break a habit, create a new, better one, to replace it.

So what new empowering habits do you want to create?

The Difference between success and failure is enthusiasm.

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The people who love what they are doing, are getting ahead and that is because that is what they want to do. They enjoy overcoming challenges and seeing what they are capable of, or they feel that they are making a difference to the world. But what do they have that we don’t? Why do they like what they are doing and we don’t?

What is enthusiasm???????????? Is it this esoteric thing that bestows enjoyment on you, or is it something you can cultivate????? We have all experienced it at one time or another, but how can we get more of it?

Let’s start at the start. This is literally the most important blog post you will ever read!!!!!  This blog post will show you how reality “really” is, how to manipulate it and change everything in your life with one simple word. ENTHUSIASM.

What is reality? Reality is literally what ever we say it is!!! You say “that is a table”, someone else will say “it’s a bed”, if that is what they have been taught all their lives. Someone else, will say, “Its wood”, or “it’s ugly”. Really think about this for a second. Who says that anything is what it is? As a group of people we agree a certain term for something and then that term becomes what it is called from then on in. If you break everything down to its simplest components, reality is just energy (atoms are just energy) that is really all we can say anything really is. But what does all that mean, basically it means that reality is what we say it is. If enough people agree that something is something then it becomes a fact. This means we can manipulate reality to whatever we want. Call a cow a dog and a horse a cat if you like. Whatever story we want to tell, we can tell. It may not be effective in life but we have the power to do that.

But what does all that really mean. Not a whole lot until you put it together with this. There is no good or bad in reality. Good and bad is just a human construct to describe pain a pleasure. Someone will have a car crash and say it’s the best thing that ever happened them, because it made them realise that they want to live life to the fullest. Whereas someone else will say it ruined their life… what makes it good or bad is the story we tell ourselves. Just like reality, we can change that story to whatever we want. Lots of successful business people will tell you that the failures they had starting out in business, taught them the best lessons to become successful. All business people who fail will have the exact opposite story. The successful people just changed their story and learnt the lessons that where presented to them and moved on turning a challenge into a success.How to be happy

I’m sure you have heard that positive people succeed more than negative people. Positive people just know how to manipulate reality to what suits them. Essentially they just say the story that gets them to where they want to be, rather than the story of why they cannot get to where they want to be.

But what is positive and negative? Think about this for a second!!! We all know the terms but very few people actually know what positivity actually is. It is an abstract term and the abstract terms of positive and negative are keeping people paralysed. They are saying I want to be more positive (which is a negative term) or be positive, be positive, be positive, but that is negative also.

So what is positive and negative? Imagine this for a second, Imagine a person in front of you that you completely love, you want the absolute best for them. How would you speak to them? Would you say you’re an idiot or would you say you’re great? How do those terms feel to you now? One is painful and one is nice. How do you speak to yourself? Positive and negative are actually abstract terms for love and fear. When you say to that person you love “you can do it” you are loving them you are seeing them for what they are really capable of. What happens if you say “you can’t” you are fearful because you believe that they MAY!! Get hurt, or you’re seeing them through your own fears of not being good enough.

Positive and negative are Love and Fear. If you speak with fearful language it’s always pulling away. I’m afraid of that thing over there! Loving language is I’m curious about that thing over there. It is the exact same situation but the different words completely change the reality of the situation.

The language we use changes how we feel and as a result either makes us fearful or loving. What sort of language do you use? Does it tear you down by focusing on what you can’t do, or does it build you up by focusing on what you can do? There is always a positive to every single Achievementsituation. Stop now and think about a negative situation you have in your life, that you want to change, and make this statement to yourself. “I know there are some positive aspects to this!! What have I learned? How have I grown? and how can I take charge of my life to make this situation better” stick at it until you start finding something loving, positive and at that point you will know how to literally manipulate all of your reality, to what you want. You will be a positive (loving) person to yourself? How are you going to start talking to yourself now? Are you going to talk to yourself like you hate or love yourself? Now you know how to be nice to yourself, you were able to put that person in front of you and talk nice to them? So now you know how to build yourself up.

I told you this was the most important post you will ever read. Imagine now you literally know that reality is what you say it is, you have learnt how to love yourself (literally talking nice to yourself) you have learnt that you can change every situation into a positive, so now you are the master of your own universe!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! How is that making you feel now?

What does all that have to do with enthusiasm getting you successful? Now that you are master of your universe do you feel more enthusiastic about life? Do you feel more capable? Essentially I’ve been manipulating your mind this whole post. Sneakily I’ve been proving to you that you can, you can, you can, you can do it! How does that feel? How is hearing “you can” making you feel now? I’m positive that it is making you feel good. Are you feeling good for your future? That is what enthusiasm is, it is feeling good now, for what is coming in your future. Imagine you at Christmas, you wrote your letter to Santa and got excited, you put the decorations on your tree and got excited, you counted down your days and got excited. Essentially you were checking off the things that got you closer to your goal and that got you excited. You loved life…. And that is a really important statement “you loved life” you loved every part of it. So loving life is actually what enthusiasm is. It is love in action. How much energy do you get from loving what you do?

Now the serious bit. Are you doing what you love, because if you are not, you dread (fear) going in to work, you dislike the people, atmosphere, buss, whatever. Either way that fear is pulling you back from what you do not like, and that takes energy. How has this one paragraph hit you? Do you feel more or less energy now than you did a couple of seconds ago?  Can you feel how your language is changing your energy, enthusiasm and life?

More seriousness. How are you to succeed in a job you do not like, if your body is literally fighting against its self? How can you get ahead in that sort of state? To put it simply you can’t. There is someone out there with enthusiasm, for what they are doing, and they are going to sail right by you.

The shit has really hit the fan now!!!!! But remember all that we have learnt. You are the master of your reality you can write it any way you want. How can you start talking nice to yourself now, to make yourself feel more energised and enthusiastic now? How can you start steering your ship to a destination that you want?????????? What questions do you have to ask yourself to get you bouncing out of your seat?happy-baby-turtle-is-happy

This is the exciting stuff now. We are really going to mess things up now. What is success? Money, fame, achievement, remember you can manipulate everything to what you want. Success is what you say it is, because success is a feeling. We have all heard of famous people killing themselves, rich people being unhappy, and met high achievers who were miserable. Success is an emotion. You can feel successful by climbing the stairs, coming up with a great idea, or by fixing something. You feel like a success by the story you tell yourself. How have you succeeded today have you put on your clothes the right way for the millionth time in a row? Success like reality is what we say it is!!! Say this… “I am successful!” what do you not believe it? Then say this “I am successful at something” “I have successfully done something’s today” this is completely true “You are a success”!!!!

They say success breeds success and it does. If you focus on your wins, each day, how will you feel? Better or worse about yourself? I’m sure it’s better… do you want to talk to losers who moan? Not me anyway. So if you’re focused on your wins and you feel better what sort of people would you like to hang around with? I’m pretty sure it’s the same sort of people as you?? And they will want to talk to you also….. This is the law of attraction at work. Success attracts success, you attracts success by focusing on what you want and manipulating reality to what makes you feel good, this makes you enthusiastic for life.

Enthusiasm is loving what you are doing now, so that you can get what you want in the future. Just like saving for a holiday.  It may be hard putting that money away each week, but it makes you feel good now watching it grow for that reward in the future. Being enthusiastic every day for your life literally brings opportunities to you, because you attract people that are like minded and will move you towards the life of your dreams. How do you become enthusiastic every day is by focusing on the positive (using positive (loving) language)(loving yourself) manipulating reality to what you want (which is focusing on your successes) each day by learning from every situation.nothing-is-so-contagious-as-enthusiasm

What is your focus going to be from now on? Every day in every way I’m noticing more and more success? Every day in every way I’m becoming happier and happier? Imagine walking around saying the word success what are you looking for? Your reality will start to change… Look around your room now and say success in your mind over and over and look at what pops out to you. What did you notice? I’m sure you seen something that reminded you of success… but this is the important thing…. While you were saying “success” you automatically delete everything that has nothing to do with it. Your reality is literally changed by what words you’re constantly saying to yourself. Are you saying you’re a winner the world will reflect that you will literally be searching for the things that prove that. This is a huge statement “what you focus on you get more of” if you’re saying the word red over and over you’re going to get red. If you say not poor what are you going to get? You’re going to get poor, poor, poor. What will happen if you say rich (which is what you really want) you will get rich. What you say you get more of. You do not get what you want by focusing on what you do not want you get what you want by saying over and over what you do want. I am becoming happier and happier every day I’m becoming wealthier every day. Just be careful that the words your using make you feel good, enthusiastic and energetic. Don’t get caught with out with statements like I want to be rich because that statement isn’t finished it has a but at the end of it I want to be rich “but I’m not” say I’m working on a new exciting job or I’m saving more and more money I’m becoming wealthier and wealthier. They are progressive statements.Challenge-Accepted-2f2xs0v

I see learning this like skipping a stone on water. You get it, then habit kicks in, and you forget it, but then you get it, then forget it, and get it, and forget it, then eventually your new habit is formed and it sinks in fully. If you read this post often you will get “it” more and more every day and you will get everything your heart desires.

You can literally manipulate reality now, to whatever you want. You are a Jedi of the world around you. So what is the future you’re going to create?

Please leave a comment on your new amazing enthusiastic life I’d love to hear it.