The two things that stop you from having what you want.

If you understand this post, you will see how this is exactly how you got everything in your life. If you understand this post, you will have the keys to everything you want in your future.

Spend time really thinking about this, Spend time really feeling this. Challenge yourself to feel what is really going on in you, because this is it. This is the only thing you will ever do to achieve everything you ever want. Be that enlightenment or billions of dollars!!

The two things that stop you from having what you want.

  1. Lack of clarity,
  2. Emotions.

The one thing that empowers us is our story that enables us to create a flow towards what you want.

If you want to be a millionaire the only thing that is stopping you is lack of clarity. If you knew how to do it you’d be a millionaire already.

Now I am just using millionaire as an example, you could want to be a whale scientist if you want.

Once we decide on anything, (to be a millionaire) a question pops up instantly. Who or what or why or where or when or how. In this case how will I make a million?

These are clarification questions. If you keep asking them you will eventually get what you want.

The clearer we get on what we want the more we believe it can happen. If you

want to be a millionaire and don’t know how that it is going to happen, you feel doubt. But if you go to a millionaire and ask them how they made their millions then it becomes more believable. As you can see the clearer you get the more you believe.

Belief does not come first, Clarity does😊

The only thing that holds you back from achieving what you want is your

emotions. If you have a conflict in you from when you are a child like your parents always saying, “there is never enough money”” money does not grow on trees” and so on this plays in the background. So, if you say I want to be a millionaire and that is exciting this underlying story will pull at your good feelings and undermine your energy.

So, by stepping forward we then find out what is holding us back. The exact thing that is holding us back comes up. So, by stepping forward we get an opportunity to listen to ourselves and create a greater flow of energy. By listening to ourselves we can see what is true and not.

If you are feeling dis-empowered you are always telling a lie. You have overcome everything in your life to this point? How does that feeling feel? Do you feel Empowered or dis-empowered? If you are not feeling good from saying I’ve overcome everything in my life, then you are lying to yourself because you have, so that emotion that is making you feel bad and is obviously not telling the truth.

Now that we are starting to pay more attention to how we feel we can start feeling what is going to move us forward in the most effective way. We do that by the stories we tell ourselves. When we say I can you are always telling the truth and when we say I can’t we are always lying. Someone somewhere has done more or less what you want to do. No one is 100% original. So, if someone has done it you can too. So, by saying I can your energy flows when we say I can’t we feel dis-empowered.

But we must feel what is going on in us at the same time as what we are thinking. Our emotion drive us forward. If you have an issue with self-belief and you feel you can’t saying you can just doesn’t feel right. We must feel our emotion at this point we have to care about them because they are us. they are always looking out for us and caring about us. so, if we try to bulldoze them we are bulldozing ourselves. Once we start listening to our emotions we are loving ourselves. We are also being extremely smart because our emotions give us much more feedback about situations than we can consciously perceived. We have all had the experience of something just not feeling right and us ignoring it. 😊

So, when we create the story in partnership with our feelings we then create flow. This can be a challenge sometimes and we may need to do some emotional digging but this is what is going to give us the most fun and freedom in our life.

When we become more clear externally we become more clear internally and more In-tune with ourselves then we are creating the stories that will empower us to live epic lives.

Re-evaluating my goals.

My plan to speak at pendulum summit got derailed, for the past few months.

I set an audacious goal, and didn’t really know what I was getting myself in for.

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Just like all goals, plan A didn’t work also plan b, c,d, and e. But now finally after trailing and fail-learning and a bit of de-motivation, I am getting the picture back of what I wanted 9 months ago.

I can see myself speaking on stage and the energy in the place being off the charts. I know the type of energy I want, because I’ve was a DJ, and I know when a place is electric. 3 or 4 thousand people, with a real drive, to be the best that they can be. Just even saying this pumps me up.

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I got derailed like every one, my goal was going to take a lot more effort than I thought. But that is the mark of a real goal. Something that will grow you. I had all the pieces but had no idea how long and how to put them together.

My naive assumption at the start of the year was, I’d put out a bunch of videos and get traction, and that was it. Haha. So funny now. Totally delusional. But again that is the mark of a true goal.

So, I’ve melted my own head over, and over, just like every entrepreneur, and it didn’t seem as much fun, as it originally did. It started feeling like it was going to be a lot of hard work.

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My plan originally was to do a bit of online marketing, and get a job with Pendulum Summit doing marketing, network with all the top people, and develop an opportunity that way.

What has come about, is I’ve had to start a media company, to build my own brand, which still doesn’t exist. So I’ve had to do a lot of study, and growing, than originally planned.

I started a meet up group,(The Epic Life Group) because I needed experience as an actual speaker. Yea that’s how delusional, this goal was. I fucking love it. Totally nuts.

Because I got disillusioned by the scale of things, my energy started to go, and I realized, I had a lot less time, than I originally thought. I was aiming to have all my stuff together at the end of the year, and I’d get a place to speak. But thanks to DJ and Journalist, Mark Kavanagh, I realized I had a lot less time. I actually had to get my shit together months in advance, because that is when they would finalize the lineup. Yea as I said I was delusional. Haha

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So through setting up the Meet-up group, that became much more interesting, and of much more value, than speaking at pendulum summit. I was getting in a small way, what I was aiming for in speaking at Pendulum.

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I said to myself, sure if I just build this group to thousands of people, I wont need pendulum.

So I carried on with that vision for a few months and had to think about growing the group, so I started reading lots of books, and marketing stuff, primarily @garyvee and today I realized, that I was struggling with my marketing message.

I realized that I had no direction, for what I was doing, I lost my north star. My vision had evaporated.

I was reading this stuff to grow the group, but to what end. It was vague and mushy.

Lost vision

Over the past few months, I had felt this vagueness, but I had no idea what it was. I went from being proactive, to just reading stuff that seemed like being productive, but it wasn’t leading anywhere.

I am reminded again, and again, that we have to have a north star, a destination, a goal because, that puts what we are doing, now, in context, and gives what we are doing, now, purpose.

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I was proactively lost.

I can even see it in the epic life group, I had lost that drive to grow, by being vague, and the group, I feel,could feel that too. Every bit of content I was putting out was great, but it lacked that bit of drive, and conviction, that direction. What we are all doing this for. We want epic lives, that is why, we are here, and that energy, was faltering.

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I understand on a whole new level, the purpose of goals, so much more now. Goals are not to be attained, but they are there as tools to help you grow.

The goal itself is irrelevant, the journey is the most important thing. It is who you become as a result of your journey, that is most important. But! the goal gives you direction.

This goal has gone from being something fun, to something much more serious, it is now become a mark of my growth, as a man, a person, as a person who can make a difference, to his own life, and as a result the people around him.

The goal has gone from being a selfish one, to one that I hope will empower others.

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I know now, that I am mad late, on speaking at pendulum, but miracles happen every day.

I am re-energized, and clear again on what I want to do, and why. We all go through these processes. If you are to take one thing away from this, is just keep going, keep moving forward, and things will become clear eventually.

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If  I had have stopped, I would not have a second chance now, and I gave myself that second chance.

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My energy and clarity is back.

I see myself in the Dublin Exhibition Center speaking to 3 thousand people, and bringing them on a journey that empowers the fuck out of them. I see the place going nuts, for themselves, because they will see how far, they have come, through my story.

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If I can be so delusional, and keep going, so can anyone. I can tell you now, I am 100% a better person for all the effort I have put in. Win, loose, or draw I have grown, and that is the real purpose of goals.

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I can not go back to who I was, and one way or another, I am going to have better things because of this.

I look forward to meeting you on our Epic Journey’s

 

The most important thing, you could ever do!

Setting your mentality for the day.

Imagine waking up, and the first thing you notice, is how tired you still feel. Like that 8 hours of sleep, has just been a waste of time. You have just fucked up your sleep and you already feel like a looser.

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I have done this way too much. Starting off my days in completely the most dis-empowering way possible.

I’m sure you have heard, what I am about to say already, and it’s probably made sense to you.

What I want to ask you, is why haven’t you done it? I want you to ask yourself, why you haven’t done it?

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I don’t feel like it, it’s too hard when I’m tired, I don’t think of it. whatever your complaints are I’ve used them. I have gotten into looser mode first thing.

What it boiled down to for me is, I didn’t put me, as high enough priority in my life. I was a whinger and a moaner.

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I was going with the flow, wake up, and see what happens. No direction.

I knew all the right stuff, but wasn’t doing it, because, I just didn’t feel like it.

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I’d try it for a bit, and then let just let old ways win out.

Now, I want you to imagine, what it would be like, to feel awesome every day, grateful every day, and excited to see what happens?

All good things are the opposite side of effort. Even in the smallest way. You have to get up off your bum, to get an ice-cream from the fridge.

This is so important I’ll say it twice, “all good things are the opposite side of effort”.

So how can you expect to have a good day, if you don’t put any effort into it?

Hope is the most destructive thing, on this planet!

Hope gets you nothing! Effort gets you something!

What would happen if you put energy into your day? If you said, thank you, for a bed to lye, thank you, for the house that keeps me out of the wind. Be grateful for what ever you want.

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Then you start creating how you want your day to go. I am going to meet this person and have an awesome time no matter what. We are going to have fun. I’m going to enjoy the drive to work today. What ever you want, you can choose how you want to feel about it.

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Imagine taking charge of yourself and your day!! How awesome would that be? I can I willImagine putting effort into how much fun your life is going to be, just because you decided to?

Take 1 minute now and do this. Say with a smile on your face, feel silly and put real energy into it. I feel fantastic, I feel fantastic, I feel fantastic, the rest of today is going to be awesome! just pay attention to how you feel, now?
Drive that energy now, this is literally the most important thing, you could do for your, whole life,    Feel_Awesome-606x230 right now. Take full charge, and have an awesome day! Choose to feel better, choose to have fun, choose to feel awesome, now! you are in charge!

It’s your choice!

Traits of an Entrepreneur.

EntrepreneurWe can get caught up in traits, behaviors and miss the true essence of a person. This is a great post on traits of an entrepreneur and also someone who is living their life to the fullest. Richard Branson

What I want to show is that we are all individuals, and we come at every single thing in life in a completely unique way. So no matter what, trying to emulate traits, is actually not being true to yourself, and demotivates you.

I’ve found through dealing with a number of entrepreneurs that effective personality traits develop as desire for the business grows. The desire to create an effective mind-set and routines grows in line with the business.

So the key personality trait that I would suggest developing is clarity of vision. see how your business can work get out there and start asking questions.

However, there is an aspect of this, that has to be kept in mind. It is to develop clarity of vision with a focus on improving ones self to achieve that goal.

Just like running a marathon you can not go straight to running 42 kilometers you have to grow but by doing your research each day and doing your bit each day you learn about yourself and as part of that you grow in every aspect. you get more organized to run in the morning you learn about eating better. all the traits develop as you move towards the goal.Entrepreneur calm

Let me ask you do you think Donald Trump and Richard Branson where born with all these skills, or did they learn them as they went along. Each of them learned personality traits from their parents. How many rags to riches stories have you heard, from people who had no parents. What happened is, that they had a goal and developed the traits along the way.

Goals come before traits so develop your goals and become the person who can achieve them.

What are your goals,  and who do you have to become to get there?

Routines to wins.

Consistent wins

Every successful entrepreneur has routines, these morning routines or rituals gear your brain up for the day a head and keep you focused on what is most important. some people meditate others do vision boards but every successful person has some sort of morning routine.

But routine is boring.

I’ve been struggling with morning routines for a long time now. I do them, but they are routine. They seem long and drawn out and boring. I have to do this sort of mentality, But they do get me in the right frame of mind and focused

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Daily wins.

This morning I flipped it around, I started calling them morning wins, because you are winning, you’re beating that voice in your head, that holds you back. What better way to start a day than by setting your standards and winning.

First win, is beating the snooze, get up before the first one goes off. Easy and motivating to get up. I say to myself over and over “I make it happen” Whatever it is Life, Fun, and Goals? If it’s to be, it’s up to me.

Second win, do my push-ups and sit-ups. This gets you pumped and awake (naturally).

Third win, Meditation clears my mind for the day ahead.

The most important thing is to celebrate them. Log them in your book and see the fruits of your wins, write down how you feel and how you are thinking.

So set daily wins,

Daily wins.

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What is an entrepreneur?

To me an entrepreneur represents someone who is innovative, ambitious and goes for what he / she wants. But I think it goes much deeper.

As many great speaker have said before, there are two drivers in life, Pain and Pleasure.

I believe that you can operate out of fear and operate out of love (pain and pleasure).

I believe that entrepreneurs operate out of love. Love to create and make the world a better place.

The fear mentality is “I haven’t got enough” and they consume, this is what most people call greed, but greed is actually fear of lack (not surviving) or not being good enough (ego)I-love-entrepreneurship

People who operate out of love are focused on building businesses that make the world a better place, either for the people or the planet.

We have all heard about the law of attraction and we have all heard this statement what goes around comes around, this is what Karma is. When you operate out of fear you may make money but you will be unhappy. Whereas you operate out of love you will make money and you will be happy.

So to me an entrepreneur is someone who operates out of love. They love their product they love what they do, they love helping people, and they love being of benefit to the world.

By loving what they do they become attractive, full of energy and life. By loving what they do they attract the right people to them and spread positivity to the world, and the world responds in kind, by helping their business grow.

Have you met people like this? I’m sure you have. Do you want some of that action?

Spend months, or years finding out what you love, then do it, and do it to the best of your ability. Make a decision now to love your life.

Best of luck.