I used to beat myself up for not being perfect first time I did anything. I was shown how to do something, surely I should be able to do it right? I’d go off into a mental spin of self criticism, essentially saying I’m not good enough, useless and stupid.
Someone forgot to tell me how we actually learn things. I now see habits and Learning in the same way. It’s like a skipping stone on the water. The stone hits the top of the water and bounces up and then skips along the top of the water, quicker and quicker and quicker, until it eventually slows down and sinks in.
We all learn and develop habits in the same way. We get it, forget it and get it, forget it again and again, but each time the sequence is happening faster and faster, then eventually it sinks in.
Some people do learn faster, but that may be due to them practicing something similar in their life. Either way there is no point in thinking about it.
Just focus on what you can learn now and how you can improve. All of the beating myself up just demotivated me, and now I just don’t think about doing it wrong, I just focus on how I can do it better.
Which way of thinking do you think is more effective, enjoyable, and enthusiastic? Ultimately what was the original point of beating ourselves up? Surely to get it right, so we can enjoy ourselves.
One way (beating ourselves up) demotivates us. The other way (focusing on what we actually want) motivates us.
So why beat ourselves up when we can just focus on learning and doing it right.
Have a day full of enthusiasm.